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So, two nights ago, I was on call with my sweet baby and we were discussing how it's gonna be almost a year since he first messaged me about wanting to possibly be in a Mommy dynamic with me. We were going back and forth, remembering all the memories we had created together. He was also explaining to me how sometimes he thinks that one day he's gonna wake up and it was all dream. I reassured him that I'm real, and I'm not going anywhere. As long as he continues to be himself and continues to improve himself (have growth), I'm staying 😊.

He then tells me something that for the first time in sooooo long, I blushed. I mean, I can't even remember the last time I blushed🥲. He said, " You are my dream, and I can't believe you are real." I know it's something that people probably have heard before, but it was the way he said it. It was as if this sweet and gentle little puppy who had been through so much, finally found happiness.🥹

I'm learning more about him everyday and it continues to make sense on why sometimes he overthinks, especially overthinking about the possibility of bad things happening. He's just someone who has been trying very hard to get through it and finally has lifted himself out of that deep hole. It's as if the universe noticed that when he finally was giving back to himself, something else even more beautiful was going to come into his life and add to his life, hence me. I think it's also why he tries his very best to make sure I'm always happy.

Overall, at the end of the day, even though we started off as having a Mommy dynamic, I considered him more than just my sub, he's one of my best friends and being his dream, is something I'm always going to cherish 💖

Being a Domme/Mommy Domme is truly something I'm happy I discovered about myself. It was one of those things where you know there was this trait about you. You just couldn't figure out what it was. Why you feel this way, why you are attracted to a specific type of person (a submissive person). There is much more I can list, but one I really want to dive more into is Cuddles.

Of course, cuddles is self explanatory on what it is, but what made me see it more than just a physical action was how it made the other person feel. I know cuddles aren't just tied to a Mommy dynamic. It's part of all types of dynamics. It's a human experience. But, it's different in Mommy dynamic compared to a vanilla dynamic, that feeling of holding someone, pulling them closer to you, kissing their forehead, caressing their back, patting their head, and my fav thing, feeling them completely melt into me and not hold on to any of their weight. They finally have that space to be free, feel safe, and not have a worry in the world. To accept their submissive side.

Sometimes, a person just needs a hug, and cuddles are the elevation of a hug..... it's something that I'm so happy to give someone/ a sub. Feeling the weight of another wrapped in my arms, no matter their size, it's such a beautiful thing. I might be in the few percent, but you don't even have to have romantic feelings or be in a romantic relationship..... cuddles, to me, can be between two individuals who both give consent. It all goes back to how sometimes, a person just needs to feel the touch of another person.

A cuddle could possibly give someone the stride to keep going and not give up.... it's a reminder that the person is being seen and heard. I'm happy that I get to help someone be seen and heard..... I might not be a doctor, but being a Domme/Mommy Domme does give me the gratification that I'm helping someone save themselves, and remind them that they are special, all it takes sometimes is just to do some nice lovely cuddling 🫂

I know this post is more of me speaking my pov in this lifestyle, but what about any of you? What's your experience with cuddling in a Mommy dynamic? If you haven't had it yet, how do you imagine it to go?

So, just as the title states, my sweet baby came early. He's pretty good at holding it until I command him to cum, however, this time around, he came early and what made me upset, wasn't the fact that he couldn't hold it, but how he immediately felt so bad and embarrassed.

After he did, I immediately noticed how his body language changed and he hid his face. I asked him, what's wrong, and he's like, "I'm so embarrassed that I did that, I'm sorry." I said back to him, "It's okay mi amor, I'm not upset or anything, I wanted you too cum, you just happend to do it a bit early, and that's okay"

He continued on to say how he was supposed to make me cum first, and that he failed at that too. I tell him, "My Sweet Baby, I was the one leading so I was focusing on you, I'm grateful you wanted to make me feel good, but I started it all, and again, I wanted to make you feel good."

He continues to ask me over and over if I'm upset or mad. I'm like, "Noooo My Baby, I'm not upset or mad, why would I be? Your body did a human thing and that's okay, really, I'm good, I just want to make sure you are okay."

And so, turns out, there was some experiences he had in his past that made him have a PTSD moment. I listened to him talk and reassured him over and over again, that it's different this time, he doesn't have to worry.

In the end, he felt better and comforted. He was very grateful and we ended up going at it again, but this time, it was more lovely dovey stuff, and he was able to heal from his past. I can't say completely, but it was a good first step.

Situations that happen like this remind me how important it is to keep someones vulnerability safe. I'm glad he felt safe to tell me and this was another moment of growth for the both of us. I'm sure if it was the other way around, he would have done the same for me. He truly was a good boy ✨️🩷

Maybe other Mommy's or Dommes can relate when there was a time you were in a environment where everyone is openly talking about their sexual experiences and you think that when you talk about yours, no will judge, or make disrespectful comments about you. However, when you do talk about how you have a dynamic and/or relationship where you (the women) are the dominate one, especially in the bedroom, you get hit with all sorts of comments and judgement because you are the dominate one.

Well, that's exactly what happened to me. I was in a discussion with many other women, and everyone was talking about their sexuality and sexual experiences. Everyone was being supportive and all was going well. Keep in mind, every single women that had spoken before me were talking about all these things that the man did to them, so the women were the submissive and they couldn't get over how exciting it was. Now, some of the women were very detailed in their storytelling and again, I was all supportive because hey, if she likes to be the submissive, likes it rough, and getting choked, I'm all here for it. Like, good for you babes, you go feel good, happy for you.

Now, come to my surprise, when it's my turn to talk, (which btw, I was excited for because everyone was so supportive and cheering on each others experiences) I talk about how I'm the one that leads in the bedroom and nurture my submissive. I give a bit of insight on being a Mommy/Dominatrix and I immediately notice the change of energy in the room. When I was talking about how I pleased my sub and had my way with him, which btw, wasn't extreme bdsm stuff, if anything, it was stuff on the gentle side. I continue to talk about my experiences and again, the room is cold, I get backhanded comments, and I feel the nasty stares at me.

Like, I thought we were open minded here and being supportive. Why is it that just because I don't prefer a man to dominate me and throwing me around, I get judged and given the cold shoulder. It was a big surprise for me and another eye opener on how even women can judge you for being dominant and/or a Mommy Domme.

So yeah, to my other fellow Dommes/ Mommy Dommes, have you had an experience like mine? Have you been judged and looked down upon for being the one who leads in the bedroom and/or relationship?

So, just as the title says, misogyny still exists in Female Domination/Mommy Domination. Me and my other beautiful best friend, who also is a Mommy Domme were talking about how many submissive men still don't respect women and just because they are submissive, they are still men at the end of the day. She said, "Because some people *cough cough* men… when they interact with dommes treat them as play things, as dolls that will just do what they say and be kink dispensers, the personification of a vending machine of self serving pleasure" and she's absolutely right. I and so many other dominant women have experienced the huge amount of comments and dms from men who automatically just call us "Mommy" or other names and jump to thinking we want to dominant them. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not talking about all submissive men, but something to also point out is lots of submissive men might not send those ridiculous dms but they will stay silent in not calling out these other men and their actions. It's always other Dommes who stand up for other Dommes, except I will say, there was one sub who did for me, end we ended up becoming great friends, and that's all we have been.

Another thing, I've gotten dms where submissive men want to be friends with me but I tell them, "Oh, you should check these subreddits. There are other submissive men who you can relate to and have things in common with. You can make friends there" and every single time they say "No". I don't understand how these type of submissive men voice out and quite honestly complain about no one understanding them and no one cares about their emotions, yet they do nothing about it or put in any effort. They think that coming to a dominant woman is gonna fix everything when in reality, they don't see her as a human, they just see her as sexual object.

Also, many of these submissive men only like the idea of dominant women in a fantasy way. They want her to talk to him in a certain way and say these things to him in the bedroom but the moment she actually steps up for herself out of the bedroom, and talks about important topics, they turn their backs or complain that she is being ridiculous. Heck, I might get down voted for speaking the truth and standing up for myself in this post because it's me, the ordinary dominant women speaking, not the fantasy Domme. Just goes to show, misogyny, once again.

I know there are good men out there, submissive or not, but I think many of these submissive men need to take a step back and think to themselves....

Why don't they want to be friends with other submissive men?

Why don't they hold each other accountable?

Why bring a Domme into their mess and think she's the solution to their problems?

Why do they truly want to be in a relationship with a dominant women?

There are so many ways to be intimate with someone. Don't get me wrong, I love kissing, touching skin, staring into one's another eyes, etc etc... but hugging someone so tightly that you don't want to let go, I can't help but want to hold on forever. I think it's why cuddling and snuggling someone is one of my favorite intimate things to do with someone. I like being the "big spoon" and having that person wrapped up in me. Holding them close to me, especially when they lay their head on my chest... I look down at them and think to myself, "How can someone be so precious and wonderful." I want to protect them, keep them safe, and let them know they don't have to worry about a thing.

A hug can do so much, it's a comfort for sure, and I don't think many people get them nowadays..... so even if it's a simple hug or cuddling someone.... I never want to stop giving them✨️🫂

So, something I didn’t expect happend and it was that my sweet baby bit my butt as I was making him cum and I LOVED IT!!!😆. Now, normally I'm the one that bites and my sweet baby had never played bit me before until that time. Actually.... it wasn't even a play bite😅 it was more of so.... "oh my god.... I feel amazing... I need something to bite on"

So, I was on my cycle, and of course Mommy's yummy parts were off limits but I still wanted to make my sweet baby feel good so I sat on his stomach and gave him a bj and hj. He was feeling so so wonderful and when he was finally cumming....I continued to stroke him after he finished because....why not....his big boy parts belong to me (of course consent was given beforehand 😉) and he was all squirming and he hadn't experienced that before. He was shocked but loved the feeling it gave him and he was out of his mind of feeling so good that he bit my butt😂.

When he did.... I had the biggest smile on my face and I was silently giggling because he was a complete melted mess and at the same time..... happy that he got to experience something wonderful ☺️ but I wasn't expecting it and just also thought it was so cute because the sounds he made.... OH MY GOODNESS..... LITERALLY ANGELS SINGING TO ME😄 he sounded so beautiful... I feel as though he finally.... FINALLY didn’t care what sounds would come out of him... he just wanted to feel good🥹

I can't stop thinking about it..... ngl, I was a bit upset that my cycle had started but My Sweet Baby had been so wonderful, taking care of me the whole day, that I wanted to take care of him and soooo...Mommy was on a mission and it was definitely a success 🥳😆

This community, in the past months, had been taken over by bait posts and lost its true purpose, which is a lifestyle community. Where we talk about this dynamic and help each other. This space is meant to be a safe place for those who have questions, are in the dynamic, maybe got out of one and need support, exploring themselves, maybe just wondering what side they fall into, and many other different reasons.

So, with all that being said, and to get a jump on getting back towards the original purpose of this community, I'll start a discussion of what experience made you realize, that this type of dynamic was something that you knew, you wanted?

Feel free to share your experiences. You share what you are comfortable with, no pressure. Remember, to be genuine and be kind to one another ✨️🫶

Hello everyone ✨️ I'm Miss Lisa, I'm one of the new mods here. I'm excited to do more for this community that I love being a part of!!! 💖

The beautiful Ava has worked very hard, behind the scenes, to get this subreddit into her ownership, since unfortunately, the original creator is m.i.a. She has and is continuing working on the other issues (specifically the auto mod), so please be patient as she continues to work hard.

So, again, it's such a pleasure to be here as one of your new mods😌 and we ask that you continue to follow the rules and be kind to one another💕

I have already added new flairs, and I believe Ava opened the option to post images now, so yay😆 have fun with those😄

Let's all explore, share, and enjoy our journeys in this community ✨️

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