r/mommydom

Maybe other Mommy's or Dommes can relate when there was a time you were in a environment where everyone is openly talking about their sexual experiences and you think that when you talk about yours, no will judge, or make disrespectful comments about you. However, when you do talk about how you have a dynamic and/or relationship where you (the women) are the dominate one, especially in the bedroom, you get hit with all sorts of comments and judgement because you are the dominate one.

Well, that's exactly what happened to me. I was in a discussion with many other women, and everyone was talking about their sexuality and sexual experiences. Everyone was being supportive and all was going well. Keep in mind, every single women that had spoken before me were talking about all these things that the man did to them, so the women were the submissive and they couldn't get over how exciting it was. Now, some of the women were very detailed in their storytelling and again, I was all supportive because hey, if she likes to be the submissive, likes it rough, and getting choked, I'm all here for it. Like, good for you babes, you go feel good, happy for you.

Now, come to my surprise, when it's my turn to talk, (which btw, I was excited for because everyone was so supportive and cheering on each others experiences) I talk about how I'm the one that leads in the bedroom and nurture my submissive. I give a bit of insight on being a Mommy/Dominatrix and I immediately notice the change of energy in the room. When I was talking about how I pleased my sub and had my way with him, which btw, wasn't extreme bdsm stuff, if anything, it was stuff on the gentle side. I continue to talk about my experiences and again, the room is cold, I get backhanded comments, and I feel the nasty stares at me.

Like, I thought we were open minded here and being supportive. Why is it that just because I don't prefer a man to dominate me and throwing me around, I get judged and given the cold shoulder. It was a big surprise for me and another eye opener on how even women can judge you for being dominant and/or a Mommy Domme.

So yeah, to my other fellow Dommes/ Mommy Dommes, have you had an experience like mine? Have you been judged and looked down upon for being the one who leads in the bedroom and/or relationship?

It seems a sub on the…small side…opens up a whole realm of opportunities for the Mommy Sub experience. Asking for a friend (not)

Just wondering. I see a lot of hate out there abour it and I’ve personally experienced so I want to hear peoples ideas of it. Also this isn’t a personal request post. Please don’t remove it.

Why does mommy leave? I do everything she ask and I let her be mean to me but I am not good enough :( I’ve tried very hard but it keeps happening. They leave, gone forever and each day feels more lonely. How do make someome not bored of me while being uglyyy and fat? Be nice to me I might cry 😿

I’m not sure exactly what it stems from, but a lot of the time, especially while alone, I feel so unsafe.

I feel like someone’s gonna try and hurt me or worse even when I’m alone

I don’t even know what it stems from; but it happens so often, I wanna know if other littles also experience this, and I also want it to stop /_\

I feel like the "Its okay" "I'm proud of you" and "You're doing a good job" messages definitely help! But I'd like to know how I can be better. I feel like I could be doing so much more...you know?

What're some ways you cheer up your little ones?

And if you're a little, What're some things that'd make you feel better when you're down?

So, just as the title says, misogyny still exists in Female Domination/Mommy Domination. Me and my other beautiful best friend, who also is a Mommy Domme were talking about how many submissive men still don't respect women and just because they are submissive, they are still men at the end of the day. She said, "Because some people *cough cough* men… when they interact with dommes treat them as play things, as dolls that will just do what they say and be kink dispensers, the personification of a vending machine of self serving pleasure" and she's absolutely right. I and so many other dominant women have experienced the huge amount of comments and dms from men who automatically just call us "Mommy" or other names and jump to thinking we want to dominant them. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not talking about all submissive men, but something to also point out is lots of submissive men might not send those ridiculous dms but they will stay silent in not calling out these other men and their actions. It's always other Dommes who stand up for other Dommes, except I will say, there was one sub who did for me, end we ended up becoming great friends, and that's all we have been.

Another thing, I've gotten dms where submissive men want to be friends with me but I tell them, "Oh, you should check these subreddits. There are other submissive men who you can relate to and have things in common with. You can make friends there" and every single time they say "No". I don't understand how these type of submissive men voice out and quite honestly complain about no one understanding them and no one cares about their emotions, yet they do nothing about it or put in any effort. They think that coming to a dominant woman is gonna fix everything when in reality, they don't see her as a human, they just see her as sexual object.

Also, many of these submissive men only like the idea of dominant women in a fantasy way. They want her to talk to him in a certain way and say these things to him in the bedroom but the moment she actually steps up for herself out of the bedroom, and talks about important topics, they turn their backs or complain that she is being ridiculous. Heck, I might get down voted for speaking the truth and standing up for myself in this post because it's me, the ordinary dominant women speaking, not the fantasy Domme. Just goes to show, misogyny, once again.

I know there are good men out there, submissive or not, but I think many of these submissive men need to take a step back and think to themselves....

Why don't they want to be friends with other submissive men?

Why don't they hold each other accountable?

Why bring a Domme into their mess and think she's the solution to their problems?

Why do they truly want to be in a relationship with a dominant women?

Lately I’ve been feeling… chained.
First of all, my children are my greatest blessing, and I wouldn’t change being their mommy for anything.
But ever since becoming a mom myself, I miss having a little girl. I miss that dynamic, the nurturing, the guidance, the playfulness, and the connection.
At the same time, I feel like I’ve become much more careful about what I share online. Sometimes it feels as if society expects mothers to fit into one box. As if I have to choose between being a good mom or being my authentic self.
The truth is… I don’t want to choose.
I’m a Dutch mommy with many layers. A mother, a woman, a Mommy, a partner, a spiritual person, and someone with desires and passions beyond motherhood. To me, freedom means being all of those things without feeling like I have to hide parts of myself.
I’m curious… are there other Mommys here who struggle with this?
How do you balance motherhood with your desires, your dynamic, and your own identity? Have you found a way to let those parts of yourself coexist?
I’d genuinely love to hear your experiences.

So I am 24M and from Germany.

As the title says Ive been through a lot. I wont go into details, but just so you have a rough idea: SA, mental/physical/emotional abuse by parents, siblings, teachers, classmates, two suicide attempts, years of therapy, nightmares and panic attacks to this day.
Again, I shaved off a lot and oversimplified some stuff, but point is Ive had it pretty bad.

I have a mommy and a good boy kink. A big one. One time a girl at work called me that playfully because I did something before she asked. I moaned and spilled the boxes I was carrying over the floor; I got embarrassed and tried to make an excuse but I don't thing she was buying it. The one time I did explore this kink with someone was over a call with a girl who was into it. She called me good boy, said she was proud, that she loved me, that she wants to cuddle me, my vision got fuzzy, my heart beat out of my chest, I couldnt breath, my tongue was out, my body was shaking, I forgot my name for a bit and we had to take a break because she was scared I was having a seizure.
I also love wearing dog ears/tail/paws. I love being talked to like I am a child and completely helpless.

Anyway, I just really enjoy this dynamic. It makes me happy and I think thats to no small part due to my history. It just maps onto it perfectly. To be honest I was thinking a few times to put out adds specifically mentioning my trauma like a twisted "LOOK, I AM REALLY HURT, TAKE ME!" kinda like you wanna get the puppy with the lost eye out of the litter box first. The idea of a woman liking the trauma and crippling depression I have is very sweet to me.

But it feels wrong. I would never trick someone into anything, I am always straight with people and if I ever get into a relationship Id tell them about my mental illness at least so they know what theyre getting into. The ethical concerns are not about me lying or deceiving someone.
It just feels wrong. I dont know. I shouldnt expect someone to do this and even if I did find someone, what if they end up not liking me and are now in this awkward position of "I dont want to see him anymore, but feel bad about it." Especially with the whole childish thing.

Is that a thing that people like? Would it be ethically okay to practice it? I am just confused about it.

I had a less than happy childhood and that brought with it its share of issues that I continue to struggle with on a daily basis. Such as cptsd, depression, anxiety, chronic pain, negative self-image/esteem/confidence.

Well recently I’ve been going out and meeting new people specifically in the kink community cause I figured that’s the best place to find a mommy. one such person very quickly became my “comfort person” for the social kink group meetings we ended up going to. Fast forward a week and she’s asking me about my interests in kink, more specifically why I want the things I want and trying to understand me more, I end up reading her my impact statement from therapy (made the poor girl cry when I did). but she was extremely empathetic and said she actually had similar experiences. Fast forward two more days and she shared her story with me, and we became even deeper friends. By this time she understood that I was very insecure about myself and that I believed I was unloveable, that I felt like I wasn’t trying hard enough and that I was so tired of fighting my own head alone without any respite from the storm. She also realized I hadn’t ever been held and comforted, since I was a small child and took it upon herself to give me an opportunity to do just that.

We cuddled, she held me close, let me snuggle into her chest, started running her hands through my hair and started telling me how proud she was of me, how strong I was for surviving everything and for working so hard to heal, how amazing of a person I’ve become and how proud of me the little hurt child inside me would be of me for never giving up. How amazing it is that I have been through so much in my life and instead of being vengeful and angry I became kinder than anyone else around me, and how that little boy and the older me didn’t deserve any of the things that happened to me, she wished she could go in there and give him a hug and remove all the lies that I learned to believe about myself and replace them with all the truths that are the reality of who I am.

I don’t think I’ve ever felt so at peace and comforted in my life, I cried and cried and just felt so wanted and protected for the first time in a very long time. Not being judged for wanting to be treated with kindness and love, not being judged for crying or being tired from carrying the world on my back. Just allowed to melt into her warm embrace and exist. She might not be a mommy domme but she showed me what it’s like to meet someone who can see all of me and instead of running the other way she wanted to help show me what it feels like when someone cares enough to stay. For that I will be eternally grateful. Keep going the course! It will pay off if you put in the effort!

I feel like nursing on my mommy would really be a bonding experience. But i have tasted my boob juice before and I think it is disgusting. It actually made me gag.

Would you consider a dry nursing relationship?