After months of stress and the LONGEST roadtrip that I’ve ever taken in my life(from Austin to Seattle ), I’m finally living in Seattle. A dream! I’m basically just wanting to get some advice on the scene here. I’m currently on seeking now but am wanting to move more into free-styling, as there are so many interesting restaurants and social places that I want to visit.
Any advice is welcomed! Thanks in advance
I had an M&G coffee date planned for today and we both spoke and confirmed yesterday. I traveled home for the holiday but I made sure to come back late last night to be ready for today. I wake up, start getting ready, I actually finish way earlier than I needed to just to get a text that he’s in the dealership* with his car. It’s getting funny at this point. I tell him that he could just uber to our meeting place. My thinking is that if you’re not personally working on your car, there should be no issue with getting another ride in 2026. He says that he doesn’t need a ride, he needs his car which yes I understand, but at this moment you’re last minute cancelling on something that has been planned for over a week and you’re putting no effort in trying to actually make it. Anyway, I blocked him.
My question to POT SDs, if you were in this situation with your car, would you try to make other arrangements so that you didn’t miss the M&G, if you actually wanted to make it? Up until this point, he made it seem like he was actually excited to meet me. Or am I being inconsiderate and should I have been more understanding? I really want to know your opinions.
What if every major city had a “Ghosted” gathering for SBs and SDs every month? It’s definitely not realistic but I was just thinking about. Imagine the connections that would be made haha. Have a good weekend!
How many hours before a planned meetup do you expect the other person to confirm before you decide not to go?
If they haven’t confirmed, do you still show up and hope they do too, or do you take the lack of response as a cancellation?
I have a M&G tonight (allegedly) and I haven’t heard from the POT since we set the date. In our last messages, I suggested that we exchange numbers so that it would be easier for us to get in touch with one another for the date. He sent me his and I sent a text to him so that he would have mine. Since then, I haven’t heard from him. I sent another message online saying that I hope to hear from him soon about whether we are still on for tonight. I’ve decided that I’ll give him until a certain time and if there is no response, not go. The time that we are meeting is a time heavy traffic and it’ll take me about 45 minutes to even get there from my house. That time plus the time it’ll take me to get ready.. it just doesn’t seem worth it for me to show up if he’s not going to.
I’m just wondering if you all would set a time for the other person to respond or if you would still show up?
Edit: the date was set yesterday and I sent a text this morning, a message online letting him know that I sent him a text, a message online hoping that we were still on for tonight, and a text letting him know that if I don’t hear back from him by a certain time I’ll assume that we are no longer meeting.
I’m interested to know what everyone uses to do extra vetting/background checks. I had a source that I would use but since I’m back on the search, I’m interested in whether there are better resources that you all are using.
HAPPY TUESDAY!
I just want your opinions on something.
I recently ended an arrangement about a month or so ago and I’m contemplating on whether or not I should look for a new one right now. Usually, I would but I’m moving out of the state at the end of the summer so I don’t know if looking now would be worth it. If I was moving to a bordering state maybe I’d be more open to looking but I’m moving across the country, from Texas to Seattle.
What do you all think?