How important is communicating kinks to a Domme?
22M with zero experience. I don't know how long it will be before I find someone to explore with, but there's one thing that worries me. One of the most common pieces of advice I hear is that needs and desires should be clearly expressed. However the last thing I want is to tell a girl what I want and have her do that. It seems like that would completely ruin the magic of the whole thing.
Im really not sure how I think it's supposed to go. I wouldn't expect her to guess or figure out what I like vs don't like, but I also don't want to straight up say what I like. I think part of it may also be that I wouldn't want her to do anything that she doesn't want to do herself. Am I overthinking the whole thing? For other subs, do y'all typically just state exactly what you want? For Dommes, is it really that important to you that your subs tell you exactly what they want?