SOS. Need HELP might have one in less than 12 hours
My girlfriend made a new friend (only been 2 weeks)
And they have gotten extremely close to an emotional level
As apparently he makes her feel really safe and she ended up trauma dumping and crying to him
She has been open to me about everything
And i was glad she found a friend after a long time
Then she introduced him to me and i found him interesting
And i became friends with him and she was happy that i was friends with him as well
For context, our last threesome plan failed as it was too slow it was a mff and the other girl didnt pull any moves and was too nervous
And now out of the blue unexpectedly she calls me and randomly mentions that this new guy could be our next threesome partner as he is very communicative and also holds boundaries well
And he is way way much closer to her than i am with him
On top of that they are way too much emotionally close
Now my partner she is quite excited and she has reassured me very well about everything so i have 0 doubt on her
Now thing this was initially suppose to be a friendship i liked him as a friend as well
But like i having a hard time thinking sexually about him it kinda grosses me out to touch him sexually
I Dont find him attractive in any way
And i cant help but feel like he is getting advantage of this and trying to use this opportunity to fuck her
I have always liked the idea of a threesome but like man
Men are men they suck ass
Even tho EVEN THO I GENUINELY DO BELIEVE THIS GUY IS REALLY REALLY NICE
I AM JUST NOT SURE WETHER I WANNA DO IT OR NOT AND SHE IS SO EXCITED AND WANTS IT
(Just because its a threesome its not about the guy) she only choose him because she thought she could trust him
Cuz like we cant fuck someone who is untrustable and may fuck us up
So i am also positive he wont do that but
Like i dont find my self finding him attractive that much and i dont feeling giddy or good if he touches me or kisses me
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That was one part
Next second is
I tried to say i dont want any sort of flirting or touching when we are alone with the other person
I mentioned i wont be comfortable
On top of that like they are bestfriends now on top of that they are emotionally close to the point they cried with each other
Now if they are close like that and having sex how does it differentiate from a relationship
Where is the line
Like yes it could be fine if we all three are there at once
But outside of that isnt it weird
I mean that is also ur friend
Even friends with benefits forget all the sex shit never flirt with each-other and keep fucking and being friends in two separate areas
So like where is the line here
To this her reply was, flirting builds tension and the entire resson we are doing this is for tension if he doesnt make me feel anytbing there is no reason to do this
When we were planning to do mff
We didnt communicate much and she was asking herself a lot of questions (she clarified these yesterday) apparently she was constantly thinking " does he think i am a slut does he see me in a negative way should i be feeling these things if another person touches me should i feel butterflies will he think of me as a slut if i feel butterflies if someone else touches me"
And to add to this she said i only feel things if i let myself feel things with YOUR permission otherwise i never feel anything towards anyone else but since i felt like u wont like it if i feel butterflies if someone else touches me ( the other female partner we were suppose to fuck) for that reason i lost interest and dont like her anymore
As there was no more tension
Now how i see it as is
I dont need emotional tension infact i dont wanna feel anything for the other person at all
But just purely just for sex and nothing else
Just a extra hand to make things more fun
Yes i will need to be attracted to them physically but i dont want emotional closeness we could be friends yeah sure
I wish to see the other person come to just serve us
Cuz we aint doin this to make the other one feel good
This is my relationship and we want to feel good
Harsh but a living dildo or pussy or sex toy if you will
If you are too emotionally close it just becomes a open relationship
Now we might make out in the car tomorrow snd she wants to be in the middle and i do want to make her feel good but what bothers me is they are very close friends emotionally (I DONT MIND THAT I AM MORE THAN HAPPY SHE HAS A FRIEND LIKE THAT BUT WHAT BOTTHERS ME IS IF THEY ARE FUCKING AND FLIRTING
LIKE THEY MET UP YESTERDAY AS FRIENDS IN A RESTUARENT IT WAS JUST A NORMAL HANGOUT
BUT IF THEY ARE FLIRTING IN THE MIDDLE OF THAT HOW ARE THEY JUST FRIENDS
LIKE I AINT THERE
SO WHAT SEPERATES THIS?
ON TOP OF THIS I NEED TO MENTION SHE TOOK 2 YEARS TO GET COMFORTABLE WITH TOUCHING MY DICK AND SUCKING IT .
I confronted her how are you already so sure about direct sex already with the 3 of us
(I never penetrated her even we are still virgin)
Now she did say she wants to loose her virginity to me before the 3 some
She said to me i took time with you because it was for love and safety
But this one this is just sex
(Over the last 2 years she was always mentioned how much she hates dicks and only likes mine because she loves me )
But now she is suddenly okay with HIM penetrating her..
She did reassure me and i do trust her but i just cant help it...
Now we are supoose to meet tomorrow and i dont know..
I mentioned that i wanna meet him as friends thats it
But she said if things flow dont stop it
I feel so much pressure
She did get mad at me for not communicating with her
But i am so scared of dissapointinh her
What do i do?