24M, prone masturbator my whole life, can’t finish with a partner or normal jerking off — what’s actually wrong with me?
Trying to figure out if this is fixable or if I’ve messed something up permanently.
Background: I’ve masturbated by lying face-down and grinding against the bed/couch since I was a kid — never really did the standard hand-stroking method. I’m uncircumcised too, and honestly still not 100% sure if I’m supposed to retract the foreskin when I do this or not, or if that matters.
A few weeks ago a girl gave me a handjob and oral and I could not finish, even though it felt good and I got right up to the edge (that tip-sensitivity, almost-need-to-pee feeling). It just never happened.
Since then I’ve been trying to switch to normal hand masturbation with lube, and it’s inconsistent — sometimes nothing, one time I did finish but wasn’t fully hard at the time.
Then I had sex for the first time a few nights ago and couldn’t stay hard enough to finish, and my partner ended up upset/crying about it, which obviously didn’t help my head going forward.
Is this just from years of prone masturbation conditioning my body to one specific stimulation? Is it fixable, and if so how long does it actually take in people’s experience? Did the foreskin/retraction thing matter at all? Trying to figure out if I need to see a doctor or if this is something guys commonly work through on their own.
Any insight appreciated, this has been messing with my head.