u/ObligationCalm8026

I want to get some honest opinions here.

I signed up for an erotic massage on masseur finder. The masseur was a Florida muscle dude, he was expensive ($400 for 90 minutes). He said it would involve muscle worship (I’m cool with that), mutual nudity (yep) and armpits (ok). I get to his house and he seems distracted but I make my way on the table naked and undraped. He takes off his cloths and begins.

Now I’m a smaller structured fit guy and he seems to be be getting into me, breathing heavy, sweaty, somehow sexually charged. He’s much bigger than me physically but I try to enjoy the intensity as he’s massaging me. But pretty quickly he’s engulfing my face and nose with his armpits, which I wasn’t much into, and he seemed to be playing with my hole kinda rough, also not my thing. I say hey, calm down down there, I’m a top only, but he’s not responding.

Then he asks me to open my mouth and proceeds to dribble a huge amount of his spit in my mouth. This isn’t my thing at all, I’m not sure what’s going on. He tells me to open my mouth again, I say no, he lowers his voice and more vehemently demands that I open my mouth, I say F you, but honestly now I don’t feel safe. I then spit back out the first dose all over his chest above me, which gets him mad, and I ask what he’s doing to my ass. He admits that he has two fingers in there and tells me it’s what I like. I told him I didn’t like it and to take his fingers out of my ass. He doesn’t, and I told him again, and to wash his hands. Finally he acquiesced.

Here’s the rub. I wanted to leave and not pay, but I was a little scared of setting him off, so he gave me an ok massage and even tried a hand job. He asked for a blow job and I said no. The conversation got more normal. I jerked myself off, paid $400 plus tip, and left. But I’m still a little pissed off, and real pissed about the 2 fingers and the spit. I’m pissed at myself for making the best of a bad situation. But what do you guys think about his behavior and mine?

I was in the locker room this morning toweling off naked after showering. A younger guy came out of the sauna fully clothed and sweaty. I know he noticed me and I assume thought nothing of the fact that I was drying off and putting on underwear. He took off his sweatshirt and shirt. but left on his gray sweats, and posed in front of the distant mirror. He had a classic muscled swimmer’s body, tight, nothing overbuilt. I watched from the side view. He seemed to notice me watching and took off his gray sweats and then grabbed and adjusted his sizable bulge a few times as he posed some more. Was he posing for me, or oblivious that I was even there? Do you find that men like to casually show off their bulges to other guys?

I was at the Y this morning. There’s a men’s naked steam room and dry sauna for those who want to be naked, but most younger guys wear underwear. Unfortunately we have doors on our showers, although with somewhat sizable gaps.

A tall, fit guy, about 28, with a towel wrapped around his waist, skipped the sauna and picked the first shower stall on the left. As I went to select my stall, I saw him through the gap leaned against the wall, eyes closed, relaxing under the shower head, one palm high up against the wall, the other soaped up and stroking his sizable rod. I was surprised he was so comfortable stroking at the gym, even if in a private shower.

Of course masturbation is healthy and he had no idea that I and others could see him fully in the act. He came out looking stress free and dressed modestly.

Do you think this is common behavior? From a bro code perspective, he wasn’t trying to be seen, nature just took over.

Is the ability to masturbate privately in the gym showers to relieve pre-workday stress an argument against communal showers?