u/Ok-Goal1793

Original post and update:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Realinceststories/s/550gjxF9CG

This has kind of spiralled beyond what I had expected and I really need to give a shout out and massive thanks to those who have sent nice, supportive messages in recent weeks. None of this was planned and I totally wasn’t expecting to feel this way or be in this situation and I still can’t believe how things have happened.

So an update:

Basically my sis and I have been texting each other quite a lot. Literally every day since all this started. The texts have been a bit naughty at times and we have had to make sure we delete them so nobody ever sees what we have been saying.

Anyway, we arranged to meet on Saturday. We said we would pretend we were boyfriend and girlfriend and literally forget we were related and treat each other like as if we were dating. That meant when I met her at the station I would act like she was my girlfriend.

I felt really nervous and excited when I saw her. I kissed her, like properly on the lips. She kissed me back and it felt sooo good, but when we stopped I was defo embarrassed. Tbh I think we were both a bit weirded out. We went into town for a bit, then back to my place to chill and watch a film.

On our way from town to my place we held hands and I tried kissing her again on the tram. She kissed me but ngl it didn’t feel right. We agreed we shouldn’t be doing this, it’s too risky etc. and when we got to my place we talked for ages about how we felt, how we felt about the situation and how we had kinda caught feelings for each other, even though we can never act on them.

We watched a film in bed. I had taken my jeans off before it started and she took her denim shorts off, mostly just so we were comfortable. Nothing sexual… but after a while I started holding her hand again. We talked about how if we were dating we would be doing stuff by now… anyway, we started making out. She’s an amazing kisser!

My hands wandered up her top and over her bra. She put her hand on my bulge and stroked it just for a few seconds through my pants. I wanted more… I thought this was really it… but when I suggested she took her top off she said no, because it would lead to sex.

It was soooo annoying (for both of us, I think). Such a come down, but long story short, other than some kissing and light touching, that was it.

We held hands on the way back to the station later and for what it’s worth, anyone who saw us kissing goodbye would have thought we were together and had probably had sex loads of times.

Little did they know nothing actually happened and it probably never will.

The weird thing is, we still text each other every day in this flirty way. I actually really want us to meet up again one day this weekend, but she says she can’t. Anyway, we’ll see what happens and I can keep you updated if you’re interested.

Original post and update:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Realinceststories/s/IZt5DAUGSd

First of all, THANKS to everyone who has messaged with support to help me navigate this and not make it feel so weird (it still feels strange but at least we are openly talking about it now)

Basically the flirty messages have continued since Saturday and we just talked on video call. It was sooo awkward at first but I broke the ice by just telling the truth and saying I love the messaging and it makes me look at her in a whole different way. She likes it too.

We agreed we would never allow for things to go further so there’s absolutely no way we will go there, but we are going to meet up on Saturday. This will be the 4th Saturday in a row we have met up so we joked about how that means we’re “getting serious” and holding hands might just have to be ok 😂

We are going to go to a seaside if the weather stays hot, which it looks like it will. I asked her if she’d wear a bikini, she said maybe… so I suggested she models it for me now. She wouldn’t… because she didn’t want me to get too excited, but I said it was too late lol.
I showed her the outline of the bulge in my pants (she asked me to prove it) she just laughed and said it doesn’t change anything and I won’t see her in a bikini.

It’s cool tho. We are sticking to riskque texts and deleting them regularly.

Ok so I don’t really know where to start. Sis [F18] and I [M22] have never been super close. I moved out of the family home at 18 and went to uni in another city. We didn’t make any special effort to keep in touch, I’d just see her during holidays.

There was a party a few weeks ago, a post-graduation party with friends I used to live with in my first year. I wanted to go, but I didn’t want to go on my own (split up with gf in January) and long story short, I invited sis and she came with me. This is where it gets a bit weird: I was kinda hoping my friends would assume she was my gf. I know that sounds lame, but I didn’t want my friends to think I was single. Anyway, I asked her on the way there if she’d be ok with me saying (pretending) she’s my gf. I explained my reasoning, not sure she understood, but she agreed… anyway, we ended up having a good night. Nothing happened other than we held hands a bit… just for show (ngl that felt nice).

Anyway, that evening defo made us closer. I think I defo caught feelings 🙈 but obvs didn’t say or do anything. We stayed in a hotel in the city centre (separate rooms) and since then I can’t stop thinking about her. I literally remember every detail of what she was wearing, her make up, how she had amazing legs, how other people must have noticed how cute she was. I have never thought about her like this before and tbh I’m really confused and conflicted about it.

In the morning I messaged her to see if she wanted to go down for breakfast. This is the exact message I sent:
“Hey pretend girlfriend what time do you wanna get breakfast 😍”
Her response was:
“Ye hope there a maccies near here pretend boyfriend 😂” (and she heart emojid my message)

We have started to be pretty flirty ever since. Nothing major, just silly stuff. But there are a few specific conversations I need to put out there:

1. ⁠In the days that followed one of the things that came up when we messaged was that “I owe her” and I’ll have to “pay her back” and I said I’d take her shopping as long as it doesn’t bankrupt me etc etc. Basically, that happened on Saturday. I made a trip back home specially to do this (which is weird considering I have never done that before, but I was happy to do it to see her). The shopping trip was actually chill and we had a laugh. At one point we started holding hands, but just for a second (it was as we were walking out of a shop in the mall, but we stopped almost instantly. It’s weird because it happened soooo naturally but then we realised where we were) she laughed about it.

2. ⁠The flirty texts have continued this week. Yesterday she said she was wearing one of the tops we bought the other day. I asked for a pic so I could remember which one she meant (yeah right, I could remember well enough) and she sent me one of her wearing it. I replied that she looked hot and she hearted the message.

3. ⁠Yesterday morning I texted her and she started her text with “hey secret boyfriend” (instead of pretend boyfriend) and when I mentioned it, it started a whole conversation about how we’re talking to each other differently and interacting differently, but it’s cool because we’d never do anything. Even so, we agreed we probably need to delete some of our messages (e.g. like where I said she looks hot in that top, or where she said she wished her boyfriend would be more like me)

4. ⁠We are suggesting a meet up on Saturday (tomorrow). I really want to see her but at the same time I know nothing is going to happen (that’s defo not possible) and I genuinely don’t know what to do. I actually fancy her and love this secret relationship dynamic even though it’s not even a relationship like that and never will be.

I really need some help processing all this.

Ok so I don’t really know where to start. Sis [F18] and I [M22] have never been super close. I moved out of the family home at 18 and went to uni in another city. We didn’t make any special effort to keep in touch, I’d just see her during holidays.

There was a party a few weeks ago, a post-graduation party with friends I used to live with in my first year. I wanted to go, but I didn’t want to go on my own (split up with gf in January) and long story short, I invited sis and she came with me. This is where it gets a bit weird: I was kinda hoping my friends would assume she was my gf. I know that sounds lame, but I didn’t want my friends to think I was single. Anyway, I asked her on the way there if she’d be ok with me saying (pretending) she’s my gf. I explained my reasoning, not sure she understood, but she agreed… anyway, we ended up having a good night. Nothing happened other than we held hands a bit… just for show (ngl that felt nice).

Anyway, that evening defo made us closer. I think I defo caught feelings 🙈 but obvs didn’t say or do anything. We stayed in a hotel in the city centre (separate rooms) and that was the first time I masterbated thinking about her. I literally remembered every detail of what she was wearing, her make up, how she had amazing legs, how other people must have noticed how cute she was. Tbh I was up half the night making myself come thinking about her.

In the morning I messaged her to see if she wanted to go down for breakfast. This is the exact message I sent:
Hey pretend girlfriend what time do you wanna get breakfast 😍
Her response was:
Is there a maccies near here pretend boyfriend 😂 (and she heart emojid my message)

We have started to be pretty flirty ever since. Nothing major, just silly stuff. But there are a few specific conversations I need to put out there:

1. ⁠In the days that followed one of the things that came up when we messaged was that “I owe her” and I’ll have to “pay her back” and I said I’d take her shopping as long as it doesn’t bankrupt me etc etc. Basically, that happened on Saturday. I made a trip back home specially to do this (which is weird considering I have never done that before, but I was happy to do it to see her). The shopping trip was actually chill and we had a laugh. At one point we started holding hands, but just for a second (it was as we were walking out of a shop in the mall, but we stopped almost instantly. It’s weird because it happened soooo naturally but then we realised where we were) she laughed about it.

2. ⁠The flirty texts have continued this week. Yesterday she said she was wearing one of the tops we bought the other day. I asked for a pic so I could remember which one she meant (yeah right, I could remember well enough) and she sent me one of her wearing it. I replied that she looked hot and she hearted the message.

3. ⁠This morning I texted her and she started her text with “hey secret boyfriend” (instead of pretend boyfriend) and when I mentioned it, it started a whole conversation about how we’re talking to each other differently and interacting differently, but it’s cool because we’d never do anything. Even so, we agreed we probably need to delete some of our messages (e.g. like where I said she looks hot in that top, or where she said she wished her boyfriend would be more like me)

4. ⁠We are suggesting a meet up on Saturday. I really want to see her but at the same time I know nothing is going to happen (that’s defo not possible) and I genuinely don’t know what to do. I actually fancy her and love this secret relationship dynamic even though it’s not even a relationship like that and never will be.

Could really use some help processing all this.