r/incestisntwrong

So, where to start.

I (37F) recently had an online acquaintance come to me and reveal that they were consanguinamorous. As someone who'd never encountered that term, but was very open-minded, I googled it, and began asking questions--the usual attempts to find holes in the argument, but. Ultimately I couldn't. This friend then gave me some consang media to explore, and. Well it ripped my closet wide open, so to speak, and I realized how much consang feelings I'd been repressing all this time. Needless to say I'm now 100% in favor of it, any couple between consenting adults is completely okay in my book!

But what's perhaps more interesting, and I hope this doesn't come across as a "fake story" like I see so many others write, is realizing how much consanguinamorous gestures are common amongst my family, even if nobody (to my knowledge) has actually acted upon it in any real way.

See, my family is all very VERY openly queer and open about our sexuality! Things like my older sister (40 F) buying my first lapdance, or organizing a hookup for me, or my younger sister (32 F) and I sharing hentai memes, or my mom (67F) asking me if I need any condoms when I was younger, these were all extremely normalized in my family. So of course, this kind of stuff just seemed...normal to me. I now realize it isn't.

But the first thing that I thought of after accepting consanguinamory was realizing my sister's kid (19N, uses it/its pronouns) almost certainly has a crush on me. Every time we're together, it holds my hand, cuddles with me, talks about how it wishes it could find a partner like me, etc. Upon realizing that, I also realized I had feelings toward it. I truly care deeply about it, it's one of the coolest people I've ever met!

But even since then, I've noticed also my younger sister...REALLY likes making jokes toward incest, including for several years insisting we as a family watch the Folgers Commercial together for Christmas. You know the one. And the other day, at the farmer's market, the two of us got told we were a "cute couple" and she just said "thank you!" like it was the most casual thing in the world. And that too has left me wondering about my feelings toward her! We are incredibly close, and she's definitely smart and funny in my eyes, and she's been there for me in ways I could never fully justify. I'm still not sure I'd like to date her per se, she drives me crazy sometimes--but I just feel like I'd at least like to tell her I'm okay with such feelings.

And, well, with my older sister, we swore up and down when we were little that we'd marry someday. Of course, we were kids, and we were told "that can't happen", and eventually accepted it, but. I know even after that we had mock-weddings as kids.

And I guess I'm just posting here because I'm wondering if anyone has any experiences similar to mine, where it seems like Actually, Everyone In The Family Might Be On Board With Some Convincing, and how you went about achieving that? It's probably a pretty rare scenario based on what I've seen, but like...When I came out as queer, everyone in my family came out as well shortly after, so maybe I'm not just projecting?

I[M36] have been a long time lurker on many mom / son incest subs looking for tips and advice on starting a sexual relationship with my mom[F60]. Over the years, I have been picking up on what I saw as subtle hints coming from her such as lustful glances and eye contact with me that linger a few seconds longer than normal. She would also sometimes accidentally bump into my front side in the kitchen with her ass. I have caught her on occasions checking me out. She recently started calling me her “first love.” She gives me lots of compliments on how handsome I am. Her hugs and kisses also seem to last a bit longer than usual. Nonetheless, I know there’s still room for plausible deniability for these behaviors, and it might not be anything at all. However, I have long suspected that she might have a Jocasta Complex towards me.

She looks good for her age but I don’t think she has much sex as my dad has medical issues. My mom’s birthday was very recent. This was when I finally confessed my feelings towards her. I actually wanted to do this on Mother’s Day, but was too chicken until recently. I did it by writing my feelings down on a card and gave it to her when we were in private. Basically in a nutshell, I told her,
“I have been thinking about this for a long time and finally have the courage to let you know that I am here for you if you ever want or need sex with me. I want you to feel wanted, needed, and sexually satisfied. Incest is very common around the world and I would like to try with you sometime if you ever wanted. Happy Birthday, Mom.”

Her response was love and kindness. She gave me an “awww I love you, son” and kissed me on the cheek. She also told me to “slow my roll for right now.” So not exactly a no, but unsure how she is feeling after my confession. There’s a little awkwardness now, but I think it will go away in time. Meanwhile, it did feel good to confess my true feelings to her and in some way it feels like the world lifted off my shoulder. The ball is now in her court to decide what to do if she ever wants anything with me.

Have any of you ever confessed to your mom? If so, what was your experience? I am interested in your stories.

Im a 23 year old female in a loving, consentual relationship with my Dad. He is 45.

My Dad raised me as a single father from the time I was 12 years old. My mom made some bad descissions that led to divorce and ultimately, my Dad getting sole custody if me. He dated here and there but his main concern was my well being.

I made it all the way through high school, and started working soon after graduation. We lived a normal life, we both worked and shared houshold chores.

Things started to change when I was 20.

I saw him differently than I ever had before.

I had a huge crush on him. I tried to keep it to myself but it wasn't easy and he saw through it. After a while he started showing signs of a mutual attraction.

On my 21st birthday rather than our regular father/daughter night out, I suggested we call it a date, he went with it and it was a really great time. At the end of the night we kissed. After that, we kissed frequently and we got to that point of discussing our situation and what we were going to do about our feelings for each other.

We decided to move forward and see how it goes. It was a good descission. I couldn't be happier.

I have told my mom that I am attracted to her and would like to pursue a physical relationship. She never told me no. She’s told me about fantasy’s of marrying her brother. Then She said she was flattered by my offer, but she isn’t sexually active anymore, and that it’s unlikely we could ever try anything because of the distance That was a few years ago, and recently I moved a lot closer to her.
Should I bring it up again? We are a little older than most mother sons. Does that matter? I just want to show my mother how much I love her. I want her to love me back in the most intimate ways

Last week I made a post here while kind of freaking out lol.

I honestly wasn’t sure if I’d get any genuine feedback. I made this account pretty hastily but compared to a lot of other subreddits, this one actually has mature and real conversations about incest.

Since I got so much positive feedback and support last time, I wanted to tell my story properly and give you all some background.

I’m half swedish and half salvadoran, my dad is the latino. I live in the state of NY with my mom, stepdad and little brothers. My bio dad now also lives in NY but in a different city, about two hours away.

I have one memory of him teaching me how to ride a bike when I was around 3 or 4, plus a few random memories from the last time I saw him when I was 13.
After that, he started some new job and staying busy. We've talked on the phone a few times over the years but that was about it. He was never really a part of my upbringing.
And the older I got, the less I cared because other things started taking up my attention.

Fast forward to last year: my parents wanted to give me a graduation gift (yeah, I graduated high school last year), and they suggested a trip to El Salvador to stay with my dad’s side of the family.

My mom had already reached out to them, but it turned out my dad was also going to be staying with them in 2026. So I asked her to postpone the trip until now so I could be there at the same time as him.

This is my 3rd week here and yesterday I decided to extend the visit so my dad and I could travel home together.

When we first met, I was honestly struck by how handsome he was. I started noticing little things I never paid attention to as a little girl.
And his jaw literally dropped when he saw me haha. Not because I’m some drop-dead gorgeous model or anything, but probably because I look so different from the last time he saw me. He was visibly stunned.

Anyway, it didn’t take long before the two of us started staying up later after everyone else had gone to bed, just so we could be alone and keep talking. I never wanted any of those nights to end!

I felt our chemistry almost immediately.

Every day our attraction grew stronger and stronger until it wasn't any doubt left. His looks made my knees weak.
Before long, we were walking around holding hands or with his arm around me.
He also became more physically affectionate in small ways like, resting his hand on my back when standing next to me, or putting his hand on my thigh while he was driving.
Little things, you know? Nothing pervy or overly intimate.

Every road trip, every camping trip, every sightseeing day, or even just hanging out. Literally everything we do, we do together.

Here, it’s normal to greet each other and say goodnight with a kiss on each cheek. Over time, those kisses became slower and closer to our mouths.

Then one night, we actually kissed.

We were alone, it had been a normal day like any other, we were saying goodnight like usual.
We hugged and as I looked up to kiss him, the first kiss landed on his cheek but the second turned into a real kiss.
Neither of us pulled away. We just kept kissing for a few seconds until it suddenly hit me what was happening and I freaked out and basically power-walked back to my room lol.

The morning after, we both smiled at each other, but breakfast was awkward af.
There are also five other family members here, not counting the neighbours who walk in and out too. So it’s not like we get many chances to be alone.

A few hours later, though, most of the family left and we finally had time to talk.
At least, that was the plan.

Honestly, all I could think about was kissing him again.
He asked me how I felt about what happened, and I just replied, “I don’t regret it.” And he said, “Me neither.”

Then we started kissing again.

It felt amazing!! Like kissing your first crush for the first time.
He was stretched out on the couch while I lay over him. We were both fully dressed, just talking and non-stop kissing.

We only had about 40 or 45 minutes before everyone came back, but that was enough for me to realize this trip was going to turn out very differently from what I originally planned.

Hello everyone! This is a throw away account and need to get some advice. Im a single female and have a younger single brother who has been our support and bread winner ever since our dad passed away. After our dad passed away, we were not doing well financially and he started working full time on his business while being a full time student. Due to his hard work, we are now doing 100x times better than before. He’s been a great brother to me, always counted on him to show up when needed and been my emotional support through tough times. Now here comes the part im confused about and have no one to talk to.

About 2-3 weeks ago, we were just talking about random stuff one night and I brought up the topic of dating. Asked him about his type and he started listing things that I first felt was about me. Then he said something that tbh shocked me. He said that he wants to be with me and wants to make me his woman. He continued with that i have always made him a better person, a hard worker and his success is due to me. Said how he’ll do anything for me, treat me like a queen, buy me anything etc etc. NOW if he wasnt my brother 100% i would have fallen for him sooner. He is an amazing guy, great personality everything I want in my guy. At the time I said no and he changed topics but it remained with me. A part of me wants to give him a chance, be the woman he deserves and I get a great guy in return, but at the same time just forget about it due to being incest. Please help with making a decision as I’m hella confused and cant make a decision.

What are some good resources for this? Low cost in the USA? Figured you’d know better than anyone

I’m trying this again after having some technical difficulties with my first “throwaway” account (not using my main one for obvious reasons).

My little sister (who is of age, to be clear) and I have been together for two years now. We’ve always been incredibly close, but two years ago, our bond deepened amid turmoil in both our lives. I moved back home in the wake of a bad breakup, and she was dealing with horrible, destructive drama in her friend group.

We leaned on each other, spent all our time together, and our love…evolved.

It’s been two years now and it’s hard to even find words. She’s my little sister, my best friend, my partner in my life, my soulmate, and the love of my life. I’m so glad there are allies out there.

Questions about our life together are welcome, don’t hesitate to ask!

I’m 50/M she is 22 yrs old
It happened at her fathers 50th birthday
We are both consenting adults and things got a little bit out of control that night
We have both got along really well together but something changed that night when her boyfriend texted her saying he is breaking up with her and had been seeing another girl behind her back for the last couple of months
So now we wait to see if she is pregnant because we didn’t use any protection and she isn’t on birth control

Like that are supportive of incest but not in a fetish way?

I (19f) am with my uncle (31m) and due to school arrangements we live together, which is awesome and I love living with him.

But obviously he has alot of power over me, which he's always been great with and tbh I like! But I know it can lead to alot of issues.

For those in a similar relationship how do you navigate it? What problems have you had and how do you deal with them?

(Throwaway account for obvious reasons) Me (19M) and my twin sister (19F) have always been what other people would say “weirdly” close. We still get changed in front of each other, we have often used the bathroom while the other is showering or the other way around (we have our own bathroom linked to our room) and we have obviously heard each other masturbate before since we’ve been living in the same room together for 19 years.

Recently my sister went through a horrible break up which involved her ex spreading a lot of rumours and leaking nsfw images of her online, she was obviously distraught by all of this but it somehow made us closer. After it happened we would lay in her bed or my bed and cuddle while she cried which would then transition into us holding each other while watching a movie.

Since we hit puberty I have always felt a sexual attraction to her but never pushed it and after her breakup I started to develop actual romantic love for her not twin or sibling love. I felt horrible and felt like I was taking advantage of her heartbreak so I stopped letting her cuddle me and started avoiding her or our room until the night when I went into it to sleep, she obviously noticed this with how close we used to be so she confronted me about it and I eventually confessed under the pressure.

It took a week before she spoke to me and I thought she was disgusted by me. When she did she confessed to having romantic feelings for me too and now she cherished the cuddling as she thought it’s the closest we would have to a real relationship. We both cried a lot that night and spoke about the positives and negatives about a relationship and sexual activities, after the discussion we finally became an actual couple tho no one knows of course.

That was 2 months ago and yesterday we finally did the deed, I got sick after finishing and felt disgusted with myself for doing it. She didn’t feel the same as me and wanted to go again but I was too disgusted with myself.

So I need help to stop feeling disgusted, I still feel love towards her but I can’t stop feeling horrible whenever she initiates intimacy or after we finish.

Can any of you help?? Is there any way at all to stop feeling this??

I have always considered myself to be logical and open minded. But until recently when i started to notice obvious signs of attraction between our son and his mom. Even as a guy who thinks I am open minded, i must admit.. its a bit unnerving.

Our son is socially awkward finds comfort in company of her mom. But lately he has been getting a bit too touchy with his mom. I spoke to my wife about the constant cuddling and kissing and she brushed it off as innocent expression of familial love and something non-sexual.

Life is rarely black or white. It's usually different shades of grey from one time to another.

So as you can understand from my flair, I (22M) have a crush on my cousin (22F) for a couple of years. I'm not madly in love, but especially during times when I'm not seeing anyone else, I think she would be a really good match and I just want to open up about all my feelings. We get along quite well and we are each other’s favorite cousins. She feels comfortable telling me about the people she is seeing and personal things in her life. However, I am pretty sure that she sees me as a cousin, like a close friend. Even though this upsets me quite a bit, it is something I don't want to lose. Because we get along quite well and I enjoy spending time with her. Since I want to get closer to her, I’m sometimes wondering if she’s ever felt something for me too.

So my question is, do you guys think I’m just being delusional and hopeless? Should I just go all in and tell her how I feel? However, I know this is a huge taboo within my family. For example, when I stay at her family's house, my aunt (her mom) doesn't allow us to sleep in the same room (in different beds of course) although nothing weird has ever happened between us before. I’m still wondering if she has any feelings for me. How do you think I can find out without ruining the relationship we already have? How did you guys figure it out? I’d really appreciate any advice you can give. Thanks so much in advance!

My brother (23M) and I (30FtM) have been having sex occasionally for a few years now. We aren't romantic with each other, but having sex has definitely made us closer. It's always fun with him and afterwards we spend several minutes talking, usually about things we can't talk to anyone else about.

For example in my family I know my father , aunt & 2 different cousins have experienced consensual incest. I also have a good friend who hooked up once with her cousin. I feel there’s more in my circle that I don’t know about !

I sometimes wonder about this...

A while ago I was talking to a sister who is in a long distance relationship with her brother (both in their 30s). And basically she said she was divorced and her brother was single and tired of the dating game of going out to meet new people, so... they decided to just help each other out.

I (40) have a crush on a cousin of mine (30) that I think is quite pretty... I often find my self gazing at her as she talks directly to me... We also have a lot in common. If she wasn't my cousin I would ask her out! So... it got me thinking... if she and I were both single and both felt lonely... I think that could maybe happen... For the record, she's happily married, so very low probability of that becoming real one day.

Just wanted to share my thoughts on this... Thanks for listening ;)

So me and my half sister are dating and were thinking about having children and we already know about genetic testing but now we need advice about having a child in the hospital. Like are they gonna test to see who the father is idk I just really need advice

Please read my last post for more details but me and my half sister started dating and we plan on marrying each other and we want to start a family together but I really don’t know how like how do we get married and like is our children gonna have problems in the future. Just need some information thank you