r/incestisntwrong

Does anyone have any positively viewed cousin romance in media? Could be a book or game or show or something.

My brother (21M) and I (23F) were always really close during our childhood. I always had few friends, due to being nerdy, homeschooled, and also likely early signs of being queer/trans. My brother was also homeschooled, but he always had plenty of people to like him anywhere he went. He was outgoing and way more social than I, but even at the busiest party, he always made time for me and made me feel like I was worth something when I felt alone and worthless. When I lost my faith, realized I was queer, and basically had to realign my entire world, he was still there. Asking questions, trying to understand, and supporting me even when he didn't get it. I was in a very dark place, and his unwavering support genuinely saved my life.

When he almost lost his, I blamed myself for not being there for him like he was for me. In the hospital his GF was supporting him and I got immensely jealous. I should be there for him instead of her, I thought. When she kissed him, I realized I was jealous of that, too. I haven't told him yet, and it's been years. I eventually grew to accept my feelings, and I intended to keep them secret and just try to be the best sister I could be for him, but my feelings for him just keep getting stronger. I don't think he would accept it. I feel like he'd try to be kind about it, cause that's just who he is, but I'm still afraid to risk our current relationship for the sake of honesty. I just don't know how long I can keep it a secret...

I don't know if any advice would help; I mainly just wanted to share. I think... I think I'm gonna tell him next time I visit him. He's still with his gf, who is an amazing person, despite my jealousy. I doubt she'd be okay with it either, but I just... I just hope it works out okay, even if he doesn't feel the same, or just won't risk their relationship for me.

I have been in an incestual situation with my family for 2 years now. Everyone is over 20 years or older. Parents are both 48 siblings are 22M and 23years old M, I'm 20f.

We are a very open, close, loving, and caring family. Lately I have been having thoughts about leaving and being on my own, but my feelings for them are strong, and I question if I really could be happy on my own. I go back and forth on weighing out the pros and cons. One minute im feeling blissful and the next minute Im thinking of other places to live.

Things continue with us and while its very enjoyable, I wonder if its time for me to move on and live a "normal" life.

Just needed to get this off my chest.

How many of you made the first move/took an interest to your son/nephew/grandson first? If you didn’t, what was the giveaway or moment of realization that they wanted you intimately?

How much consideration was taken into play before acting on the impulse and following through with something of this magnitude? A little? None? Tons? Did it take weeks, months, years?

Did guilt or disgust appear at anytime or not even remotely?

Do you text each other periodically when you’re not around them? Do any family members or friends know? And if so, what’s their input like?

Was the intimacy temporary? A one time thing? Long term? At random? Current?

Personally speaking, me and my grandmother have been closer than most for 12 years now, so I can answer questions pertaining to us, but I wanted to hear a woman’s perspective on how she got involved with this lovely world!

I never thought I'd be writing this, but I need to get it out and maybe hear from others who've been through something similar.

I'm 27, from a very traditional South Asian family. My father passed away 10 years ago when I was 17. It was sudden heart attack. My mom was 45 then, she's 55 now. I have a younger brother who's 24. We live in a smaller city, the kind where everyone knows everyone's business.

Growing up, my mom was the classic traditional wife and mother. She never worked outside the home, wore modest clothing, prayed every day, the whole thing. After dad died, she withdrew completely. Never remarried, never even dated. She devoted herself to taking care of me and my brother.

I moved out at 22 for work but came back home two years ago to save money for a house. That's when things started changing.

About 18 months ago, I started noticing her differently. Not just as my mom, but as a woman. She's aged well - keeps her hair long, stays active with walking and yoga. She has this quiet strength about her.

I started helping her more around the house. Fixing things dad used to fix. Sitting with her in the evenings when she'd watch her shows. We'd talk for hours. She'd tell me stories about her marriage, her struggles, things she'd never shared before.

Six months ago, we had a family wedding. She wore this navy blue saree she hadn't worn in years. I told her she looked beautiful. She laughed it off, but I saw her blush. That night, we were alone - my brother was at his friend's place. We had wine, something she rarely does. She got emotional talking about dad, about being lonely.

I hugged her to comfort her. The hug lasted too long. I kissed her forehead. Then her cheek. Then she turned and we were kissing. Real kissing. We both pulled back, shocked. She went to her room. I slept on the couch, couldn't even look at my own face in the mirror.

We didn't talk for three days. Then she sat me down and asked what I was feeling. I told her the truth that I'd been attracted to her for months, that I loved her not just as a son but as a woman. She cried. Said she'd felt confused too, that she noticed how I'd changed, how I looked at her, and she didn't hate it.

We agreed it was wrong. We tried to stop. Lasted two weeks. Then one night she came to my room and said she couldn't stop thinking about me either.

Since then, we've been... together. Physically and emotionally. She's a different person now - more alive, more confident. She smiles more. We sneak around my brother when he visits. We act normal in public. But when we're alone, we're like any couple.

My brother suspects something. He made a comment last month about how "close" we've become. I played it off, but it shook us both.

She's terrified of the shame if anyone finds out. Our community would destroy us. I'm her son - I'm supposed to protect her, not... this.

But I love her. I really do. Not just lust though that's there too. I want to build a life with her. But I also want children someday. How does that work? Do we tell my brother? Do we move away where nobody knows us?

For those who've been in this situation - how do you balance the relationship with the reality of family obligations? Did you tell other family members? How do you handle the fear of discovery?

Is there any way to make this work long-term, or are we just delaying the inevitable pain?

Please don't just tell me it's wrong I know how it looks. I need practical advice from people who've lived it.

The title isn’t quite the context your thinking. I’m afraid that I (29 M)have developed a significant crush on my mother (57F) and it’s simply not going away. Ever since I was young I had feeling towards my mother, she divorced my father when I was young and since then has been in and out of relationships with only 1 ever being serious.

I’ve found myself and have always found myself wanting to take care of her in every possible way. Take her on dates, give her flowers, shower her in affection, and fuck her like the cute innocent woman she is. I don’t know how to bring this up to her or even get close to this topic with her. We live a few hours apart and when we are together doing things the energy feels very couple coded (to the point where a waitress thought we were actually dating).

I’ve tried talking to my therapist about this and of course they said not to pursue it but I can’t help but want to. I feel like my feelings are different than just wanting to have sex with her and I feel like she deserves someone who will give her that. My therapist and I have also agreed that based on what I told them it’s very possible that she feels the same way towards me but repressed her feeling due to religious beliefs (she’s very religious), fear I don’t feel the same, and doesn’t want to ruin our relationship. I just want a real loving relationship with her you know.

Do you think it could be like that? Well, in recent years I've noticed that incest is talked about much more than before, and I know that at some point it will cease to be a taboo. I've always seen incest as something natural, because if they're adults and they want to do it, then it should be respected. Nobody has the right to tell another person how to live their life.

Im [M32] have had feelings for my sister for about 2 years now and we live in diffrent countries, I opened up slowly to make the reveal less surprising and she avoided the topic the more personal and intimate it got.

I wrote to her recently and after writing for a while I opened up honestly how I feel and she got really upset, confused and angrier than I have seen her before, then she told me not to talk to her again.

I have been trying to build something with her for these 2 years so she would get some kind of feelings for me besides our sibling relation and make the transition easy but it didn't work and that's the sad truth that it will not always work out

Good luck to everyone else out there

Rule 5: Me 48, son 26

First of all, thank you so much to those of you who offered words of support, encouragement and solidarity following the post I made about my feelings towards my son 2 weeks ago, whether that was in the comments or in direct messages. Many of you have been very pleasant and interesting to talk to, and have provided very helpful perspective to me. The number of direct messages have been overwhelming so I apologize if I haven’t responded to yours yet, I will in time. I’m not a “redditor” by any means, I only made this account to post on this forum and seek advice, so there are fairly large swaths of time where I simply haven’t been online. I promise I’m not ignoring you, I will get to you, promise.

On the subject of DMs, many of you have been wonderful to talk to you, many of you have not. If your desire is to ask me deeply personal questions, sexual questions, or if you treat this like some kind of fetish, I’m not going to engage with you. Use common sense and consider what would be appropriate to ask a stranger in the real world.

Many of you have asked for updates and I’m afraid there just isn’t mush for me to report on. Things are mostly the same between myself and my son. I asked him if he’d be uncomfortable with me dating again and he seemed confused as to why he would even take issue with it. To paraphrase his response, we’re both adults, I deserve love and affection, why wouldn’t it be fine? The plan for the time being is to wait for the divorce arbitration to end and then to dip my toe into the dating scene. I know that my feelings toward my son aren’t wrong but I want to make sure that I’m not just trying to fill the void. If anything comes of that, I’ll get my own place. If dating ends up being a bust, I think I’ll ask my son if he’d like to move into a larger place together. No matter what his feelings toward me might be, I’ve come to realize that I have a hard time living on my own, and he seems to enjoy having me around. When there’s a more substantial development in my love life, or perhaps our love life, I’ll make another post

Canada based.

Lately I have been feeling very lonely and isolated.

My brothers and I were rescued from an abusive cult-like family nearly five years ago.
Since we’ve been out, I’ve been trying hard to adapt to the world, make friends, I tried dating. None of it worked out.
In the end, I’ve settled into a life with just my brothers and just trying to focus my time on keeping all of us happy.
I have two twin newborns, a boy and a girl. The boy has severe OI (brittle bone disease).
For this, we were initially put into a support group for OI parents, but I ultimately ended up running from there too after embarrassing myself trying to speak to a lady I found cool.

I have come to realize I am never going to make friends while wearing a mask and pretending to be normal because the secrets will eat me alive, I’m just not, or something will happen like always.
And my brother (21m) and I are always together and this is what ended most of my past relationships when they became jealous, or got in a fight with him, and I always chose him and always will. I’m never going to have a friend unless they understand us and don’t mind.

But I find this impossible because aside from all of our baggage that can be inferred, the main things that I just keep secret that will lead to judgment or destruction if not, is that me and 21m are together now. The newborns are ours and I always tell people we are co-parenting/he is helping and this angers him, but I have no choice.

The few people that suspected or knew anything about us, judge and usually see me as a victim or want to get me help or they say this and that about my brother and then it’s over. I don’t want to leave and I all I want is a friend or community who doesn’t force me to and doesnt ruin things for us.

And something maybe even my brother might like.
He usually does not mind me interacting with women.

Hello everyone I’m 27M , when I was 22 & my cousin was 18F we would hang out a lot due to Covid. Growing up we would hardly see each other. It was mostly during winter breaks or summer breaks. Anyways I think we’ve always had an attraction to each other so once we started hanging out things happened during Covid . Anyways recently I started to feel bad about it because of social standards. I started seeing a therapist & opened up about it to my mom. When I told her she kinda laughed. She actually told me she had a similar experience with her cousin growing up but anyways has anyone else felt this way? Today we hardly talk. Shes dating her bf now & we never talk about it or bring it up. It does feel awkward & I wish I knew how she felt about the whole thing but I don’t want to sound weird bringing it up to her.

Incest is somewhat common on my dad’s side & a little bit on my mom’s side but no one talks about it.
I come from a Latino family if anyone’s curious.

For those only looking for fake erotic stories, don't read any further. For anyone genuinely interested in what makes a young man crave his mother, here is my story:

I am a 24-year-old male who has strong sexual feelings toward his mother. I think there are various reasons for this. Beside the obvious — she is an attractive woman, especially for her age — I believe it stems from shared trauma. My father was not nice to me, and he treated my mom, who was by all accounts a wonderful wife and mother, terribly. I won't go into detail, but the memory of her coming to me for protection, and me standing up for her, did something to me. When I think about her, I want to protect her. I want her to feel safe with me, and I want to take care of her.

I also have childhood memories of hearing my parents. Back then, I didn't understand what was happening. Now, I realize he was raping her. I often feel horrible because I failed to protect her. I should have done more.

Fast-forward: my father died of cancer a few years ago. My mother, being a nurse, took care of him 24/7. He didn't deserve her care. I forgive him for everything he did to me, but I can't forgive what he did to her. Her dedication to him was far more than he deserved. My mother, who strangely still loved him after marrying way too young and spending her whole life in an abusive relationship, was left deeply traumatized by his death (watching someone slowly die over a year is devastating).

After he passed, we were left with a mountain of work and debt from the company he owned. My mom was in no condition to handle it, so I took over everything with the company. It cost me a year of my life and forced me to pause my studies, but I'm glad I did it. For me, it was a way of taking care of her so she had the time to grieve.

Another reason for my affection toward her is likely my lack of a romantic life in my youth. I didn't have any sexual experiences until I was 22. On top of being shy, while my father was alive, I couldn't bear the thought of bringing a girl home, having her see him, and realizing what my family life was truly like. I lost three serious relationships because of that. Then, when he got sick, that final year was pure terror. His mother moved in with us to "help," but she only made things worse on purpose, and he did everything he could to make our lives living hell. To sum it up, I couldn’t develop any real relationships and stayed a virgin for a long time, all while having a beautiful woman at home whom I loved, and who loved me.

A while after he died, I finally moved out, which was a massive turning point. For some reason, she expected me to live with her forever. It felt borderline suffocating, but at the same time, I understood. She is entirely alone, and I don’t want her to be lonely. Still, since moving out, my quality of life has improved drastically. I wish she could just find a new Partner — someone who would actually love and respect her. Unfortunately, we come from a very conservative background, and a widow finding a new partner would create some drama. Personally, I don't judge or want to control anyone, but many of our family members see it differently.

So, where do things stand now? I have a great sexual life today, but despite that, I can't stop thinking about her. Whenever I'm aroused, she’s the one on my mind. I think about exploring my kinks with her, appreciating her body, and giving her pleasure. I just can't stop, no matter how hard I try.

What am I hoping to achieve with this post? First, it just feels good to get it off my chest. Second, I’m hoping someone out there might understand. If anyone has been in a similar situation—if you can offer a perspective as a mother, a woman, or a son dealing with these same feelings — I would deeply appreciate it.

Curious as to how many still associate and engage in a conversation about your past experiences with your family member/partner. I had two experiences with two different cousins and we have never once spoke about it to each other. Over decades, never a word of what we did before.

If you ended it with a family member, don’t still talk about it? Have you? How did you go about bringing it up? Because I’d really love to talk to my cousins about what we did.

Hey! I know this doesn't mean much.. But i just wanted to say that i support you guys. I'm not in an incestuous relationship, (i don't really find my family attractive.) But i've been watching from afar and i think some of the bonds you guys have with your sisters, brothers, mothers, etc are really heartwarming! 💖👀

I’ve submitted my experience to this subreddit a few different times, but always got nervous afterwards and deleted it. After reading countless posts, I feel like I have enough courage and support to try submitting again. I’m honestly just trying to find people who’ve had similar experiences, and please feel free to drop some encouragement or advice.

So this all started about a year ago. My brother (20M) was going through a breakup, and I (27M) was there to support him. We grew up pretty close since we were both closeted gay guys in a deeply religious family. In May of 2025, the whole family met up at my parents’ house to celebrate my mom’s birthday. That’s when he told me about the breakup, and we talked for about an hour about it. I gave him advice from my experience with my past relationships, and he seemed pretty grateful. Starting that night, we began texting a lot more than we had been. It almost turned into a nightly routine where when we got into our beds, we’d text each other since we lived about an hour away from each other.

I know this subreddit is SFW, so I’ll spare certain details. But as we began texting more, we began talking about the type of guys we found attractive, what roles we played in relationships, etc. And slowly it was kinda becoming obvious that we were each other’s type. Eventually this normal talk somehow became us flirting with each other. Then finally one night around late June of 2025, I invited him over for the weekend to hangout. Again, I know I can’t share certain details, but I only had one bed so we shared it. And let’s just say that we were up for hours that night.

The next day was almost a repeat of the night before. We just hung out (surprisingly things weren’t that awkward) then eventually hooked up again that night. And ever since, we’ve been meeting up about once a month to continue our little rendezvous. So this has been going on for a year, and I’m a bit nervous to talk to him and see where all this is going. It’s almost gotten to the point where if I start seeing someone else, it’ll almost feel like another breakup even though we’re not dating. Any encouragement or advice about next steps would be great. Thank you for taking the time to listen to me, and thank you for those who’ve showed encouragement to posts in the past. You really helped ease my nervousness about posting.

Hi. Some time ago in the circumstances I don't want to disclose I had sex with my great-uncle. It was fully consensual and I wasn't drunk or anything. I don't have much in common with him, I haven't talked with him that much before it happened but ever since it happened we talked a lot about it because I kinda feel awful about it. I was always raised in values that condemned acts such as incest. I feel guilty and ashamed but on the other hand I know nothing bad happened because of it so why should I feel bad? Please help me clear my thoughts. I am 25 and he is at least 70. Apologies for any mistakes, I am not a native English speaker.

Trying to figure out why incest is globally seen as wrong or immoral. And was wondering which countries in western europe and the americas have the most common practices of incest. And what makes it "normalized" where your at. Is it still kept secret or can we do to change the way its been ostracized/ deemed forbidden by society?

Plus, if possible I'd like to move there.

it’s sort of all in the title but for reference i’m ftm and he’s cis. we’re 19. we go to the same college and we’re home on summer break and things have become physical since we’ve both been home.

what sort of conversation(s) do i need to have with him to keep us both safe and happy while also not beating our new physical relationship to death with seriousness so we can just enjoy each other?

Ok so I don’t really know where to start. Sis [F18] and I [M22] have never been super close. I moved out of the family home at 18 and went to uni in another city. We didn’t make any special effort to keep in touch, I’d just see her during holidays.

There was a party a few weeks ago, a post-graduation party with friends I used to live with in my first year. I wanted to go, but I didn’t want to go on my own (split up with gf in January) and long story short, I invited sis and she came with me. This is where it gets a bit weird: I was kinda hoping my friends would assume she was my gf. I know that sounds lame, but I didn’t want my friends to think I was single. Anyway, I asked her on the way there if she’d be ok with me saying (pretending) she’s my gf. I explained my reasoning, not sure she understood, but she agreed… anyway, we ended up having a good night. Nothing happened other than we held hands a bit… just for show (ngl that felt nice).

Anyway, that evening defo made us closer. I think I defo caught feelings 🙈 but obvs didn’t say or do anything. We stayed in a hotel in the city centre (separate rooms) and since then I can’t stop thinking about her. I literally remember every detail of what she was wearing, her make up, how she had amazing legs, how other people must have noticed how cute she was. I have never thought about her like this before and tbh I’m really confused and conflicted about it.

In the morning I messaged her to see if she wanted to go down for breakfast. This is the exact message I sent:
“Hey pretend girlfriend what time do you wanna get breakfast 😍”
Her response was:
“Ye hope there a maccies near here pretend boyfriend 😂” (and she heart emojid my message)

We have started to be pretty flirty ever since. Nothing major, just silly stuff. But there are a few specific conversations I need to put out there:

1. ⁠In the days that followed one of the things that came up when we messaged was that “I owe her” and I’ll have to “pay her back” and I said I’d take her shopping as long as it doesn’t bankrupt me etc etc. Basically, that happened on Saturday. I made a trip back home specially to do this (which is weird considering I have never done that before, but I was happy to do it to see her). The shopping trip was actually chill and we had a laugh. At one point we started holding hands, but just for a second (it was as we were walking out of a shop in the mall, but we stopped almost instantly. It’s weird because it happened soooo naturally but then we realised where we were) she laughed about it.

2. ⁠The flirty texts have continued this week. Yesterday she said she was wearing one of the tops we bought the other day. I asked for a pic so I could remember which one she meant (yeah right, I could remember well enough) and she sent me one of her wearing it. I replied that she looked hot and she hearted the message.

3. ⁠Yesterday morning I texted her and she started her text with “hey secret boyfriend” (instead of pretend boyfriend) and when I mentioned it, it started a whole conversation about how we’re talking to each other differently and interacting differently, but it’s cool because we’d never do anything. Even so, we agreed we probably need to delete some of our messages (e.g. like where I said she looks hot in that top, or where she said she wished her boyfriend would be more like me)

4. ⁠We are suggesting a meet up on Saturday (tomorrow). I really want to see her but at the same time I know nothing is going to happen (that’s defo not possible) and I genuinely don’t know what to do. I actually fancy her and love this secret relationship dynamic even though it’s not even a relationship like that and never will be.

I really need some help processing all this.

Are there any activists openly living in a consang relationships and being a spokespeople?

I am not in this kind of relationship, just none of my family members is appealing, but I am so curious of this.

Once I was an LGBT supporter and someone asked me: what if it was brother and sister? It gave me a mindfuck. Of course I was against it but wondering why, in spite of supporting Queer community.

Moreover, I had a colleague, who bought an apartament corporately with his sister. Someone ask, if they are couple. I said: no, sibilings. And someone jockingly asked: why not both? It also made me think.