Having an FLR fixed everything
My wife and I are I. Our mid 50s and have been married over 30 years, we always had a good sex life. We got very kinky for a while
In our 20s and 30s, including swinging and some D/s play. However she always has an aversion to anything female dominated.
A few years back she became quadriplegic. She has sensation but limited movements, making traditional intercourse impossible. Because she needs constant care ( her hands don’t work at all) the cost of nursing care was way to expensive so I had to retire early become her sole caregiver.
This entailed handling all of her ADLs, as well as doing all the physical work that has to be done in a family. But for me the lack of sex was a huge thing and having to wait on her constantly and be responsible for everything was wearing me down. I noticed that after I would masturbate I would have no desire to do any of my work and would be resentful of her. I started researching kinks for people who can’t have traditional sex and I read about FLRs. I realized that in action we had a FLR already but we weren’t thinking of it that way. And my sex drive was down because she was a responsibility not a choice.
I mentioned the idea and chastity to her. And she initially objected, being naturally submissive. But after she complained one day about how I can masturbate but she cannot, I brought up the topic again, that my responsibilities would become pleasurable if we had a mindset of her being in charge and my only purpose is to please her. And that she could actually control all
My orgasms and even erections.
Her eyes widened and she opened up to the idea and what was once a huge burden on me is now a huge pleasure for me. That change of mindset changed everything for us. And my resentment is gone, replaced by devotion.
And she feels empowered in a way that she hasn’t since before her injury and she is realizing how much I truly worship her.