I have tried this several times in the past and as a woman my DM’s implode, but here I am - still looking. I don’t want a connection that feels forced. The whole point is it should feel natural. All of it. The banter, the commonalities, the flirting, the attraction (more on that in a second). If I am trying to keep the conversation going and all I got is the mundane “polite” conversation topics- “how are you” “what’s for dinner” “weekend plans” I WILL get bored, and the conversation will just fizzle. That doesn’t mean we can’t talk about those things but if there is literally nothing else driving the conversation … Also, if you’re idea of connection is sexual- I will get bored- it’s unoriginal and frankly not the way most women work so if that is truly why you are here regardless of what you say, it will shine through pretty quickly so don’t waste either of our times. Just a few examples of things NOT to say:
- How big are your boobs
- What are you wearing
- Do you work naked when you’re at home (literally guys imagine it if you want to, but how stupid does that sound?)
- What kind of panties are you wearing
My panties may be sexy to you but rare is the woman who gets turned on by A) saying cotton briefs or B) feeling obligated to lie and say lacy and crotchless because we know you didn’t ask in hopes of hearing cotton briefs.
Back to attraction as promised I speak only for myself here- there has to be both you can be physically sexy AF but if you truly want an OA and not just an online hit and run- bring the brains, the wit, the sarcasm, the banter. Don’t be a bot or be boring AF because I will be bored. And please have the time. If I have to wait all day for a response I’ll get bored AND annoyed. So please have the time, especially the 8-5 game (est btw) and spoiler if I’m not responding for long periods chances are I have no more mundane follow up conversation to throw at you and you guessed it - I’m bored.
Now after all that- and if you’re still reading a few things about me.
As the header says I am 48. I’m married. I have kids. I WFH and have a solid career. I have a degree. And most importantly I’m a BBW that’s not a catch phrase and imo I’m still attractive enough to be worth the effort, but if that’s not your thing that’s ok. BUT, I know my value and like all of you gentlemen I am looking for someone attractive in return. Frankly I don’t need a mental and physical reincarnation of what I have at home- if that was enough I wouldn’t be here.
So, if you made it this far and want to be my bff because ultimately that’s the ideal (bff w/benefits later? If we’re lucky!) you aren’t a bot, boring, lacking effort or motivation or a bridge troll (or basement dweller). Do like reading, writing, trivia, banter, sass and chubby chicks…
Then let’s go!!