u/Old_Feature316

I’m 20m been dating my bf 25m for a few months now, he’s top, I’m bottom, based on what we’ve discussed so far I know in the past before meeting me ( I’m his first bf) he used to do things like face fucking, or just some pretty hard pounding. Unfortunately with me he does none of that, I’ve spoken to him about and he says it’s because he’s scared it would hurt me , I’ve repeatedly said it won’t, because of that he just lays there when I’m giving him a blow job, as for sex ya he fucks good but it’s like he’s constantly holding back. I’m not really sure how else to deal with this, I don’t wanna keep telling him “ oh can you be more rough” because he just does it once and doesn’t do it again, I don’t wanna keep telling him to it because it just feels forced. I’ve never had to tell a top all these things, they just did them, the fact it’s something he’s normally used to doing but doesn’t with me kinda hurts as I’d wanna experience that side from him, but I don’t think he can separate being lovely dovey while also fucking he’s bf like a slut and I actually need that, I’m watching porn to scratch that ich or just fucking myself with my dildo with the speed i prefer. So please any advice will be useful, I love him a lot and I wanna try to work past this.