r/TopsAndBottoms

I use condoms for BJs. I'm being a called a coward, psycho, paranoid, etc.

I think I should start sucking dicks raw.

I'm tired of being called a coward.

PS: I'm not even trying to brag, but I've done lots of BJs with condoms and...both of us (the guy getting sucked and me) really enjoyed. Yes there's a slight reduction in pleasure, but when with random dudes I feel it's worth the safety

I don't understand what's so wrong about this.

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u/choco__donut — 6 hours ago

Bottoms on PrEP--Do you still use condoms or switch/stay on bareback?

Once I have the OK I'm starting on PrEP for the first time. I'm curious to know what others do. I'm still on the fence for condoms or raw.

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u/Blasted-Samelflange — 3 hours ago

Pissgasms during Anal Play

When reading through here I’ve realized that a lot of people tend to have anal orgasms when getting their prostate played with (whether it be actual sex, dildo play, etc.) and usually cum, but are there any other bottoms out there that tend to pee when doing anal?

I’ve tried the whole focusing on your prostate thing and I can find it, but it just doesn’t feel as great. When I play with my hole I always end up peeing.

It feels really great too! It’s a nonstop orgasm. You know that feeling of relief after a really big poop? It feels like that but over and over again with no refractory period.

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u/Terrible-Ad-215 — 9 hours ago

Twink Tops

Can guys with slender twink-like physiques be effective tops? Is "cute" a good trait in a top? Or does a guy need to be more big and muscular to really fuck a bottom properly?

Discuss. Just looking for opinions, no right or wrong answers

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u/twinktopanon — 14 hours ago

Tops: why do you slap your dick on the hole before you enter it?

I’m curious and I want your honest and hot answers 🫦

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u/Nearby_Sky9069 — 20 hours ago

Pee

Any other bottoms pee themselves more easily after a pissgasm?

I feel like a tingling sensación in My ass that makes My Dick shrivel and feeling like go peeing more often. I sit in the toilet because holding my dick kinda feels weird and pee at léast always a little.

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u/usah10 — 17 hours ago

Tops: what can a bottom do in terms of physical appearance that instantly gets you?

What can a bottom do in terms of looks or outfit or appearance that immediately turns you on and puts you over the edge?

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u/LebFur — 23 hours ago

Tops: i wanna know what makes you go feral, what do you like/do when you go wild?

Ive been thinking about this guy i was with a while ago who just went feral! He said i was teasing him, wearing a jockstrap looking thin etc.

Been looking for that again so ig i want to hear about what gets you.

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u/efficientOnTheBottom — 22 hours ago

scared of big dick but also a massive turn on

a guy with a 9” wants to hookup soon and i really want it but last time i took a hung guy i got hurt , started bleeding after and couldn’t have sex for a while afterwards. i’ve tried to practice with a dildo but and the length not the issue it’s the girth it’s seem like no matter how much i practice there’s just a certain level of girth that i can’t take.

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u/Dependentday25 — 18 hours ago

What’s the best lube to use for anal sex?

So I’m a bottom and sometimes I meet tops who show up with no lube. So I want to keep one in my apartment. The problem is I’ve never actually bought lube before so I honestly have no idea what type or brand to get. Please give me the best one to buy

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u/apronmey — 1 day ago

What are the best areas to have a hookup if neither person can host?

I've been exploring my bi side for the past few months and I really enjoy having sex with men. I used to be really reserved, hesitant but now that I figured out what works for me and what clicked, i've been having really good hookups. My only issue is though where do you guys do the deed when no one is able to host and one person or the other isn't into sauna's?

I understand car play is a thing, however I feel really uncomfortable doing something in a car due to the fear of getting caught out and renting out a "hotel room" just to fuck isn't really practical for myself either.. financially.

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u/Redixil — 1 day ago

Favorite smell during sex

Next up is sense number 2: Smell!
Tops and bottoms: What is your favorite olfactory stimulus during sex? Or a smell that gets you excited for fucking? What are your thoughts when you encounter that smell?
Olfaction is the oldest and most primitive sense, linked closely with memory and emotion. There is potential for smells to make you feel extra feral or remember something long lost in your memory.

I have two scents that I love:
I have a homemade essential oil blend that he applies to his butt before I rim him. It’s basically a few drops of cinnamon in a carrier oil. Cinnamon is an aphrodisiac, so it never fails to make me hungry 😛. That scent makes him smell delicious and gets me hard for insertion.

And after sex, I love the smell of his groin and perineum after he has been successfully inseminated. There is this mixture of lubrication and semen with an alkaline and faint cinnamon aroma to it. It’s hot because my orgasm has changed his scent, and is a reminder for me that we transiently merged together and became one unitary being. The scent reminds me that he is submissive and bottomed and satisfied my appetite to completion: That my DNA is swimming around inside of him.

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u/GallopingGaze — 1 day ago

Tops can you feel the pulses as your bottom cums with you inside them?

When I cum with a toy in my ass, I can feel the toy moving as the orgasm rolls through.

Have any of you tops felt that when your bottom cums?

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u/Usual_Rush135 — 1 day ago