The basics for the new enthusiast and everyone
Domme
A female dominant who leads, controls, or guides consensual power dynamics.
Mistress
A more formal or authority-centered dominant identity, often associated with structure, discipline, and protocol.
Goddess
A worship-oriented dominant archetype where admiration, devotion, and reverence are central.
Mommy Domme
A nurturing but authoritative dominant blending care, protection, and control.
Sadist
A dominant who enjoys consensually giving pain, intensity, or psychological pressure.
Findomme
Short for financial dominatrix; centers on financial control, gifting, or monetary power exchange.
And the other side of the whip
Submissive (Sub)
A person who consensually yields control, service, or obedience within a dynamic.
Slave
A highly committed submissive role focused on deep service, structure, or total power exchange.
Cashslave / Paypig
A submissive focused on financial submission, gifting, or monetary obedience within consensual dynamics.
The holy duality
SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual)
A core BDSM principle emphasizing safety, clear judgment, and mutual consent.
RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink)
A framework recognizing that kink may involve risks that all participants knowingly accept.
Most of the new crowd coming in has a vague idea learning the basics saves everyone from being disappointed while keeping the space fun and safe