u/One_Manufacturer_526

Hi everyone

I'm new to this sub, and I just very recently found out my girlfriend has submissive desires.

I'm a man of 45 and she's 42.

We've been together a year and a half, long distance, we're in different countries, so we have a lot of sexting.

We haven't been together physically that many times so a lot of our intimacy is via text. And via text you can do almost anything.

Anyway, about 6 months ago we were talking about our sexlife and she said she wanted me to take charge more, be more assertive.

So next time we met I was, but it still felt a bit foreign to me to be that way.

I was afraid to overstep my boundaries.

Then this week we had another talk and she again said she wanted me to be more assertive. Take charge. And she said be dominant.

So I had to ask what she meant, because there are MANY types. She said I could take her anytime I wanted to without asking.

Then again tonight we were sexting and I pushed it a bit further. Adding spanking and choking to the mix and she LOVED it.

We've agreed to try it next time we meet and take it slowly, just to see where her pain threshold is.

I'm really really scared I will go too far.

Anyway we also talked about public stuff and again I pressed the envelope a bit and said, next time we meet she's only to wear dresses and skirts for easy access and nothing on at home.

She said ok with a heart.

Then she said she wished I could pick out the clothes she would wear, and I said we can have a FaceTime and she can pose for me and I can decide.

So to sum up:

she's given me permission to take her anytime I want.

She's given me permission to spank and choke her.

She's given me permission to choose her clothing or lack there of including underwear or not.

So there we are.

I think I'm am accidental dom and I really really like it.

I would like to hear from other subs how I best go ahead with this.

She hasn't introduced the terms dom/sub, but that is the territory we are venturing into.

Should I bring up those terms and hear if she wants us to use those specific titles? Or should I just enjoy it as it is?

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