Need some help!
Wife and I are very much interested in pursuing the lifestyle, and have been hot and cold on the topic for a few years. We’ve been married for nearly 15 years and have a very solid foundation of trust and confidence in each other.
As we’ve been dipping our toes into it to find ways to navigate this new experience together, my preferences or soft-boundaries keep getting pushed, to where I’m compromising on a few bigger items I hadn’t expected to for sake of making “it” happen.
It was my preference that we wouldn’t get too involved with someone at first. I wanted group play, not necessarily solo-play. think that was one of my insecurities going into it. That we both wanted a group experience, but as we’ve started finding our first guy, she really seems to want to date these men and have prolonged relationships with them.
We haven’t gotten past the hump yet. The guy she has settled on has given me some red flags about some of our boundaries. Where I’m reluctant about moving to the next stage, she’s convinced that it’s him or no one. She wants the relationship with him. She wants to date him. And she wants solo play in the future.
I just need some help thinking this through.