I see so many posts on here asking how to introduce your wife onto the idea of becoming a hotwife that as someone who has been a bull doing this for a decade and a half that unless you have good honest open communication with your wife it’s not going to happen.
My advice below comes from being a bull who only works with new couples most of what I’ve got down below comes from years of stories from couples who have gone down this road before you.
Your relationship needs to be solid, there must be trust and respect before you can even think of bringing it up.
Don’t ever think of bringing it up as a result of a nights bad sex. That simply sets the wrong tone and understand why you’re looking to explore this avenue.
My suggestion is to wait until she makes some kind of suggestion, you catch her glancing a little too long at an attractive man or she mentions a celebrity is attractive.
Once one of these moments comes up say something like what if you were different and there was no worry about consequences if he came up to you and started flirting right now would you reciprocate?
Once she suggests something like that remind her how attractive you find her that the guy would be nuts not to at least try flirt with her.
Once the door has been opened be straight honest and say something like I was reading on Reddit how many men have a kink to watch their wives with someone else. I thought about it and it’s something I’ve wanted to see for a long time.
Don’t go full bore to sissy cuck. First explore the idea of her being shared. What would the setting be like? Would she let you watch? Could it start with a MFM?
Continue conversation over weeks and maybe even months then start talking about what kind of man she would be looking for to do it with the first (and maybe only time) really try understand what she wants.
If your wife is not I don’t badger her. It never works and you’ll only end up hurting your relationship with her.
Only then start looking for a bull. I get a mountain of DMs everyday day from wanna be cucks and so many of them are just offensive in how they approach the idea.
Don’t send photos of your wife drunk or sleeping saying would you fuck her or something like that. First off if she hasn’t given you permission to share them it’s sexual assault. Don’t go there.
Start a conversation as the bull how he approaches selecting a couple. Will he talk with new couples? What is his view on what the sex should be like, rough, loving? How will he treat her? Does he use words that show he is more interested in her pleasure than his own? Will he be a giving lover? Condom use and safe sex views? Testing schedule?
Experience? Most man like to think they can randomly get hard with a stranger and a strange man watching him. Get an idea of his experience. I strongly suggest using an experienced bull for the first time. Someone who can get hard, knows how to pleasure a woman, won’t be a no show and stand you up on the day.
If he asks for pictures right away or tells you how great he is or that he has a 9” cock and is going to ruin her or destroy her. Walk away. Block him! Same goes for unsolicited dick picks! It’s a sign of what he thinks of himself and how this is more about him than your wife.
Once you your self have screened him. Tell him it’s time for your wife to start chatting. Don’t push her. Let her take as much time with chatting and calls to get comfortable with him. Let her screen him and rule him out if need be.
Until you trust this stranger. Do not share personal details, photos, addresses etc. stalking and extortion are a very real threat and happen far more often than you imagine. Treat your personal photos and details on the internet as you would your bank details and social insurance number.
If something feels off abandon the meeting or conversation at any time right up to the second before he sticks his penis into your wife.
As a bull I consider it a privilege to be invited into your lives. I get off on the thrill of being part of your fantasy. First timers are loads of work and take loads of time, many bulls will not engage with first timers due to the effort required for me I don’t know why tha is because the effort is so worth the reward. The energy in the room with a first timers couple cannot be described.! Of course what I do is hot as hell.
It’s a slow process don’t rush. Good luck, have fun.