This post turned out a bit longer than expected, but I guarantee it’ll be worth your while to read it all the way through if the title has piqued your curiosity even just a little bit!
Hey everyone!
As the title makes clear, I’m very interested in meeting someone with whom I’d especially like to explore the world of BDSM. But first, a little bit about me as a regular person since there’s more than enough room for the more intimate details later...
I’m a man who places a lot of value on balance and harmony. Well-groomed, reasonably athletic build, 5’9” tall, with medium-length brown hair and stubble. My greatest strengths are actually eloquence and patience, but listing 50 positive attributes about myself here sounds a bit over the top, so you’ll just have to find out for yourself if you like the rest of the post <3
On the other hand, I can tell you a lot more about my sexual side, especially my kinks. But here’s a quick heads-up: For me, consent through clear communication, aftercare, and safewords, among other things is non-negotiable. Safety and trust are top priorities in all scenarios, fights, and fantasies.
Also, just a quick note so you don’t get put off: Just because I’m describing a wide range of kinks, possible scenarios, and fantasies, that doesn’t mean you have to like all of them! It’s really about finding the things we can both fully immerse ourselves in, so don’t let yourself be put off if something sounds too boring or too intense, okay?
I’ve been interested since a very long time in the passion and possibilities behind power dynamics in bed, and I’ve acted on them a few times, including with women I’ve met on this kind of subreddit so far, so you can lean on me to lead this forward, if you're new to this :)
I love the tension and, in particular, the mental factors that can arise during submission. I want to play with you, like an animal with its prey. Slowly, methodically, calculatingly, but always with enough force that you know to obey... Or you’ll have to learn it <3
I know how to gradually take control, bit by bit, without going overboard and without having to resort to any kind of coercion. Of course, that doesn’t mean that, depending on the dynamic that emerges, I might not sometimes enjoy taking control in a much more active, much more physical way (consensually). But what do I actually mean by controlling, subjugating, or using you?
I do have quite a sadistic streak. By this, I by no means mean only physical pain; in my opinion, that is more of a supplement and can often be absent for sessions. What is almost indispensable to me is a slightly different way in which I want to see you suffer for me...
I want to edge you, tease you, touch you in just the right way so that it’s not enough for you, while you can do nothing but beg me to finally take you properly. I want to force every last orgasm out of your body until you lie completely spent before me, exhausted but happy. I want to slowly overstimulate you while I watch your body writhe harder and harder in the restraints, in the futile hope of escaping my touch even for a moment. In short, I love to break you down very slowly, very gently, piece by piece.
But I can also make you feel much more directly what your position here might entail. I’m open to just about any kind of sub—from the most obedient to the wildest brats, I get a lot of pleasure out of it all. With the latter, I just hope for your sake that you’ll have the stamina or discipline to take what you’ve asked for. In any case, you’ll get a taste of my preference for all things oral in some situations, both giving and receiving. From very long, intense kisses while tied up to rough oral sex, anything is possible with me. TPE isn’t really my goal, but of course we can certainly establish certain rules outside of sessions.
Impact play is another passion of mine, but it usually doesn’t have to be too rough. As I mentioned earlier, I view pure physical pain much more as a supporting element of dominance than as a main component. However, if you were to intentionally cross the line multiple times and the idea doesn’t deter you, I can very easily ensure that you’ll only be able to sit crookedly for the following few days.
But of course, there are also much more sensual sides to dominance... I want to cherish you and your body; I truly enjoy giving massages and love seeing how you slowly come back down to earth in my arms after every single session <3
Of course, play with and in restraints shouldn’t be overlooked here; ropes, in particular, are my favorite way to control you completely. That said, leather and tape also have their uses, especially when things need to move a bit faster. I have a preference for somewhat stricter bondage, slowly depriving you of any means to move, squirm, or resist... though these struggles can certainly have their own appeal.
Compiled as a short list in no particular order, my largest kinks include bondage, impact play, orgasm control, edging, denial, deepthroat, spit play, and humiliation.
My limits primarily include age play, pet play, scat, blood, risks of health damage or scarring, and needles.
Purely in terms of dynamics, I’m open to a lot of things here, but meeting up at some point and living it out IRL is my absolute priority. Generally, I’m looking for something more casual right now, though I want to emphasize that even here, a certain level of trust needs to be established to get the most out of BDSM. That said, I’d be the last person to resist the idea that this could develop into something much more, though that usually becomes clear pretty quickly anyway.
I might also have some very small tendencies towards switching, if that sounds like something you'd want to explore!
Now about you:
You should be a woman! 18+ goes without saying. I don’t really have a strict upper age limit in mind, but let’s say around 28? I get along really well with both shy and confident women, it’s just important to me that you’re comfortable with occasionally reaching out on your own and that I can tell you’re genuinely interested in BDSM. If I have to bring up most of the topics myself, it usually works out fine, but in extreme cases it can feel a bit pushy, and I’m very cautious when it comes to that.
Physically, you should have a well-groomed appearance; other than that, I don’t have a specific type of woman in mind. The vibe just needs to be right overall and we’ll see about the rest later!
You don’t need to have any experience with BDSM yet, and as I said, you don’t have to match my kinks exactly, but your chances are much higher if you’re a bit open-minded and enjoy experimenting a little
If you’ve enjoyed what you’ve read so far, if you’re curious, or if you just have nothing better to do, feel free to message me anytime: tell me what you’re looking for, how old you are, and what drew you to my post.
But be honest with yourself for a moment and think about whether you’d really still be reading this post if the idea of actually experiencing all of this didn’t appeal to you even just a tiny bit
My offer is valid as long as this post is up, so don’t be shy, just reach out anytime <3