New member
Excuse the pun.
First up I don’t want to cast any shade on those against circumcision or who decide to stay intact. I struggled with the decision for a long time and ultimately made the one that was right for me. If my story can help some other dudes make the right call for them - either way - well, I hope it does.
I grew up in a small town in Australia, most guys were uncut. From puberty I noticed there was something different about my dick and discovered I had phimosis (stage 4, depending on what scale you look at). No retraction whatsoever, ballooning when I piss, no regular infections but once or twice until I figured out how to clean properly. The only circ I knew of was Jewish guy and he used to get teased about it. Sexual/mental health was a taboo subject and never discussed, the odd occasion someone opened up to a mate everyone usually knew about it in a couple of days.
Growing up I saw two different GPs when I was 15 and 18, when I was old enough to go without my parents knowing. Both doctors didn’t seem like they wanted to help or take it seriously, they prescribed steroid cream without too much instruction or follow up and sent me on my way. I was too embarrassed to go back or ask for any more info, so applied it, saw no result, and resigned to the fact that I was different and it is what it is.
Through my 20s I was embarrassed for anyone to see what I was dealing with so hid from my friends any time we were naked - changing sheds, trips away, drunken antics. I heard of another guy our age getting cut and didn’t like the behind the back comments that followed about him. I was scared for any girls to laugh at it or spread rumours so never initiated any relationships, anyone that pursued me I pushed them away, and all sexual encounters were whilst incredibly drunk and unfulfilling, but I did develop a bit of a reputation of being hard to get into bed but worth it (which I quietly loved, despite not understanding). I tried stretching with Glansie but usually stretched too far and tore, then scarred tissue made it hard to get underway again.
Eventually found who I thought was the right person, got comfortable, got married, had kids, drifted apart, divorced, back to those feelings of late teens/early 20s and afraid of dating. 40 now.
Finally made the decision a few months ago and booked in for my circ. Current GP was incredible - talked through all the options, booked a specialist, and set me on a final course of steroid cream as a “just in case”. This time with the right instruction saw a slight improvement but got to a point and didn’t progress any further.
Meeting with Urologist was surreal - very relaxed, about 5 minutes, he took one look and laid out the plan. It was almost casual and put me at ease that I had made the right decision.
In yesterday for the op under general anaesthetic, supposedly took 20mins and went well however there was some adhesion at the bottom of the glands which will take longer to heal but overall Urologist was happy with the result and should make a full recovery.
Waking up today it really feels like a shitty chapter of my life has closed and a new one is beginning. I’ve had very minimal pain - comparable to or less than the infections mentioned earlier - and not currently on any painkillers. The head is very sensitive, first time it’s ever been exposed and intriguing to see, that’s the main discomfort but not too bad. Kind of like meeting my new best mate haha. Taking a piss for the first time like a “regular” guy was incredibly liberating.
Attached are before and after pics, feel free to DM any questions or comment below!