We are in 24/7 d/s relationship and we plan to move in together. Currently we live seperately and I work in stressful full time job and it prevents me to give my all in the weekdays because I feel extremely drained. He kept saying he wants to provide for me and he will create a business. He said I can start art business I've been wanting for a long time if I quit my job in the future. However when I asked him what does he think of as 'providing', he said having a joint account and putting 100% of our business income there (my art business income). He thought he'd be 'providing' because he would earn more. In my mind that's just 50-50 because both sides give all of their income, which is equal contribution by percentage even though the amount isn't equal.
My concerns:
1-art business is not a guarantee, it can go wrong and I might end up not having income. He doesn't seem to want to provide financially.
2-I have super conservative family and being with him could cause my family to stop supporting me. Which means leaving my full time job can leave me completely vulnerable.
3-I told him I'd like to have seperate income to save/invest and given allowance in case I can't have an income, he was offended and upset by that.
4-I'm not necessarily against quitting full time job, however I want to be provided significant safety net in order to do that. He said it feels like it's one sided.
5-my submission thrives under some asymmetry. Being 50-50 especially financially and not being provided for to some degree turns off submission.