u/Perfect_Pause7070

I get the basic concept of Joining someone's online session in xtoys but I am a little confused about setting my Maximum Intensity Limits when I connect my Coyote 3. When I click on the icon to connect, I get a popup, do I need to select the "Use Custom Intensity Limits" and then set my limits here or is that effecting their setting? Really trying to understand this so I don't affect their pleasure and not get surprised again.