u/Perpetual_Hopeful

So it’s been about a week of this new chapter. My last post is on my profile if you want to read it. My wife is no longer on birth control. The first few days or so I was caged and denied. Then she let me out of the cage and made me cum with her hand while she sat on my face. Since then we’ve had sex a handful of times with a condom. At 27 years old it’s the first time I’ve ever used condoms and I have to say it’s not as bad as I always thought. You can feel the pressure but not much else. This is our current version of pussyfree.

It seems like her libido is increasing which is amazing. She’s more wet too. She even admitted to me last night that she’s been masturbating more frequently, sometimes even waking up in the middle of the night and rubbing herself off right next to me while I’m asleep which was hot asf to hear.

Like I said it’s only a week in but I am already starting to miss feeling her raw. As I’m sure many of you can relate to it’s such a doubled edged sword because the denial turns me on but I still crave what I’m missing. At least for now we have the condom sex. That barrier turns me on too though like wtf is wrong with me 😂

The real mind fuck and turn on will be when our bull gets back in town and we see him again. He had a vasectomy so he’ll be fucking her raw. Hopefully she’ll want him to creampie her for the first time, but that’s 100% up to her. I’ve told her that I’d love that a few times, so she knows my stance on it. One of the times I was fucking her with the condom on I told her how much I wanted to fuck her with a condom while his cum is inside her. She doesn’t/didn’t shoot it down but didn’t say “oh fuck yeah that’s hot”, so we’ll see.

TLDR: For people currently in a relationship or have experience from past relationship: Did you get into this lifestyle because of issues with birth control? Who suggested it, and what was that experience/conversation like? How did it end up or where are you now with it? For those also into cuckolding, what is that like thrown into the mix?

Apologies if this ends up being long winded. Also apologies if my formatting doesn’t take, I’ve found a lot of times when using the app it doesn’t like to keep paragraph spacing. Hopefully some of you helpful souls out there will be interested enough to suffer through my context to give me your suggestions, thoughts, opinions, and experiences.

My (27M) wife (27F) and I have been together for 8 years. She has a lot of health issues. She was also recently diagnosed with endometriosis. She’s been on more kinds of birth control than I can count or remember. Because of health issues she cannot be on hormonal birth control (except for the one she’s about to go on which I’ll get to later).

I am hypersexual, she is not. She struggles with staying wet and libido in general, which she is trying to work on. I suggested she get her hormone levels checked because I’ve heard low testosterone in women can affect multiple things including libido. I know her levels are messed up anyways because of certain health issues (lupus). Apparently she’s low on estrogen but we didn’t get an answer on testosterone which hopefully we will soon after her next appointment.

Before the endo diagnosis and because of issues with the birth control she was on she started tracking her periods. She has always had really painful cramping and very heavy flow, but she started having multiple periods per month. It got to the point where the app was like “you’re never even ovulating is just period after period every other week” and her periods average like 10 days. After a few months of tracking her doctor decided to switch her BC yet again to one with estrogen, which she will be starting after getting her blood pressure under control because apparently it’ll also increase her BP.

Okay, so this stuff sucks for women and I hate that she has to go through this. We threw around the idea a while ago of her seeing what things are like if she weren’t on BC. But we both enjoy PIV and aren’t ready for kids just yet. And yes condoms were mentioned. Ultimately we decided to try another BC. But here’s the thing, I’ve had a PF fantasy for a long time. Not permanently, realistically, but periodically. Like maybe 1 month on then PIV then another month. Or something like that, timeframe can change, you get the point. I’ve mentioned this fantasy to her before, she didn’t really engage with it. (I do fantasize about permanent but I’m trying to be real here, no offense to those who do live permanent I know that is a real thing etc. etc.) If her cycle is evened out we can avoid ovulation times and/or use condoms. (Neither one of us likes condoms but I’m willing to do that).

We are currently a cuckold couple. Started a couple years ago. I also like using chastity. Our current bull we’ve played with like 4 times over the course of the last year or less. He’s had a vasectomy. You can see where I’m going with this. She doesn’t really engage with my chastity like I would prefer, usually only around cuckold play sessions. I have had conversations with her about this but she likes PIV with me, and she’s submissive at her core. She’s the type of woman who cares more about the man finishing than herself. We have had times where she did seem to genuinely enjoy teasing me, having me get her off, and keeping me locked, but normally she’s just like let’s just take off the cage and have sex.

Okay this is getting long, like I said I apologize. So should I suggest her getting off BC and seeing what that’s like? Should I suggest trying to incorporate a PF dynamic? Anyone in or were in this kind of situation? Should I suggest she can keep playing with our bull because he’s snipped, with or without condoms? (They’ve never used condoms either, we got tested). I’ve talked to her before about how there’s all different kinds of sex if we ever ended up in a position where we couldn’t have PIV as often. Foreplay, hands, oral, that kind of thing. If you read all that I appreciate you, I didn’t do as good a job keeping things in order as I was trying to.