Yes, it took her using the Wand on me, but this is a breakthrough. I have a flat cage and she positioned it right where my head “was” and it was over fast. Now that we know this, I’m pretty much assured sex just once this year. When you’re not having sex with your partner, it feels like everything is sex.
Today marks 6 weeks since PIV sex, and 3 weeks since my last orgasm. My Queen is very happy and I could not be more satisfied.
for the past 2 weeks I have been locked in a Cobra Baby and have loved how it fits.
I'm sure this type of game has been thought of before. The rules are simple, a random number generated between an agreed upon range. That random number becomes the number of orgasms she gets before my unlock.
Here's the real challenge for me. My wife is kind of asexual. She enjoys sex. We have great, toe curling, sex together. There are just other things that she/we'd rather do. Been together a total of almost 30 years and it works for us. We jokingly call her a sex camel because she can go for long periods of time without even an orgasm. She rarely even masturbates.
So I will propose to her that the random number rolled is the number of orgasms she gets from the sex vending machine. Only times when she specifically requests. That means if she initiated sex and unlocked me the orgasm she would inevitably get wouldn't count. Maybe I start back at zero. Maybe I tell her I shouldn't be unlocked until she's had her number reached? All hypotheticals at this point. But it's a fun game that I could see her agreeing to. A way for her to KH without actually doing it.
Also, she's peri-menopausal and her libido has decreased.
FLR. Married, with 2 kids. For the past 12 years and counting I've had no PIV with my wife. This was her idea - she claims she was never able to orgasm from PIV, so we began using other means to make her cum - oral, dildos, etc.
The Hitachi I bought her around 15 years ago was a game changer for us both. I would use it during PIV and She became multi-orgasmic.
Over time, we substituted my dick for a series of larger dildos - all the while using the Hitachi on her clit. After she came a few times she would give me a "handjob reward".
Soon sexy time for us evolved into what is referred to as Hitachi and Handjobs (or H&H for short - LOL).
I would give my wife 30 min to an hour of dildo play, vibrator action, hitachi, facesitting, etc. until she was totally satisfied. Then she would give me a handjob.
Then last year she said that giving me handjobs was getting to be "too tiring" after she had cum numerous times. She asked if we could both "work on making you cum faster by hand". She suggested a 1 minute time limit. This was a challenge to me!
We started by using the "timer method" to set a baseline. That first timed handjob had me cumming in about 2 1/2 minutes. Obviously I had a ways to go. But surprisingly, I wanted to beat the 1 minute challenge. To help me along, the next time we had sex she set the timer for 2 minutes with a 5 second warning alarm. The deal was I had to cum within the time allotted, or would have to wait "until next time".
I think the excitement to beat the clock got to me, and I erupted when the 5 second warning started....so I came in just under 2 minutes.
We practiced and trained all thru the summer, as she shaved off 5 second increments each time. By last fall I was cuming in around 1 minute. But she wanted me to cum even faster. So we continued training thru the end of last year.
For New Years Eve, we celebrated with a very long sexy time session-starting with facesitting - I gave her 2 orgasms as a edged myself. Then I used a dildo to "fuck" her and she came again. Then I used a bigger dildo to stretch her pussy as I sucked on her clit - resulting in her 4th orgasm. Finally, out came the Hitachi and combined with the bigger dildo, she came 3 more times - in waves....after each telling me "please don't stop - I need more". By the time we finished it had been a little more than an hour, and she had cum 7 times. She was glowing, but truly exhausted.
We cuddled a little for a while and then she said "Lube up - it's time for your handjob. I am setting the timer for 40 seconds - with a 10 second warning. Let's see how fast you can cum for me tonight."
I was rock hard and well lubed. As usual, she started the timer as she started to jerk me off - at a steady but quick pace. After 30 seconds, the warning rang. She increased her speed and told me "cum NOW for me, baby."
And....I DID IT! I started to cum at 32 seconds and finished just under 40.
I was HAPPY to be able to please my wife. And she was really, REALLY glad, too. She said "Let's see if you can cum even faster and easier for me for 2026."
She also told me "I am looking at easier ways to get you off faster. Stroking you is both tiring and boring."
To be continued.....
Over the last 9 months, my wife has gotten more and more dominant, and now is pretty regularly making sex about me getting on my knees, her taking off her pants and saying "please me". She usually doesn't acknowledge me during her build up and orgasms, and is dismissive (in a hot way) afterwards, not even looking at me and saying something like I can clean up when I'm ready.
Sometimes she tells me I can jack off if I want to (but I still need her permission to climax). More and more, she doesn't offer that, and when I've asked, she looks at me confused and asks "why?" And none of my answers have been compelling to her.
Overall, it is amazing and more than I thought we'd ever get to. However, I have mornings (like today) where I wake up unbearably horny, and the urge to get myself off is massively strong.
I wish I was in chastity to take away the temptation, but my wife feels like being my keyholder sounds like work and responsibility, not a benefit, so I am not caged.
How do other people deal with such a strong ache and not giving in, when not in a chastity cage?
My wife cut me off PIV on my 40th birthday. Soon it’ll be our two year pussyfree anniversary. I’m getting more used to it every year. I still remember the emotions when we last had PIV sex but loosing the memory of what her pussy felt like. Her having sex with her bf only feels just normal these days.
I’m 21 yo. I’ve realised for a very long time that I’m sexually submissive, and slowly (along others) i got to chastity, to long term chastity, to cuckolding, and now to being pussyfree.
I’m attractive, popular outside but I just feel I can’t offer girls what the “cocky, dominant guys” can do to them, and I thrive on denial.
But also, at my age, a guy’s coolness is judged by how much he fucks, how many girls he gets and it makes me subconsciously frustrated and makes me try to fuck, when honestly i don’t even feel “worthy” of it, compared to even my friends who have sex 10 times a week.
Are there early/ mid 20s girls or guys into keeping your boyfriends pussyfree, or being pussyfree yourself?
Keen for some advice..
My SO has really taken the lead in the bedroom and our dynamic has changed.
What used to be vanilla PIV sex has become kind of gentle domme control.
My SO told me a few months ago she no longer wants me to go down on her, and in recent weeks she is denying me - playfully but firmly - from using my hands on her.
Sex is now, amazingly good handjob followed by, when im very close, PIV. Unsurprisingly PIV is over very quick once im so worked up.
Is this heading towards pussy-free, any other thoughts or advice?
My wife became a hotwife last year and slowly she no longer wants to fuck me I think it's been even longer since I have been near her pussy. I am pretty sure I have sucked more dick (her bulls) then eaten her out. So far going 125 pussy free. She mentioned last night she may want to fuck me tonight so let's see. But so far this is the longest we have gone.
I am also kinda nudity free also, it just kinda hit me that I don't get to enjoy my wife sexually at all and I am okay with that. She will give me hjs but that's about it.
Anyone else relate?
I recently brought up my chastity with my wife. She didn't know I was in chastity (for about a month). I told her I was doing it for several reasons for me, like getting better control of my masturbation, delayed gratification, more sensitivity when we're having sex. That started a conversation that has been on going over the last few days where I'm trying to encourage her to take more of a lead role. (I want a FLR but it takes time to ease her into that). She said she worries about feeling guilty if she didn't reciprocate. I told her to think about me like a sex vending machine. It's unidirectional. You make your request the vending machine delivers. Easy peasy.
Yesterday as we were driving to the beach for a vacation I said the best way for you to not feel guilty is to let me show you how it works. You'll see how happy I am for it to be about you. I also said that it's not necessary for our hetero relationship to be centered on the male orgasm. That point stuck for sure.
So now I'm out on the porch enjoying my morning coffee and I get a text "is the vending machine open". One blow job please. Done. Holy shit this is hot as fuck!!!!!!! The only thing that is killing me right now is that I unlocked for this trip because we have daughters and in-laws and salt water and I'm still getting used to 24/7 locking. At any rate I made a decision not to bring my cage and I'm regretting it. Never again. Also because when I am the vending machine I want to be only in my cage serving her. Fuck this is hot!
For those couples who include limited nudity or nudity denial…
Curious about how this started for you, how it has progressed (if it has), and how over time it has evolved or shaped your dynamic.
For us, it’s not complete denial, but limited and situational.
Over time, I’ve found I’ve grown to more deeply appreciate her beauty, and appreciate more nuances of her body over and above obvious sexual bits.
Also, less entitlement or “taking for granted” drives me to place a greater value on other aspects of our intimacy - touch, scent, etc.
It’s also re-energized my arousal response to her “non-naked” sexiness … see her legs when she’s in her robe, her nearly bare feet in sandals, her cleavage in pretty summer dress.
What are your thoughts and experience?
My cock has never felt the internal heat of a vagina. My wife—we’ve been married for 20 years—inserts a finger into my prostate every day, masturbates me (often sniffing my cock with a serious, almost "medical" air while doing so), and makes me cum (with her finger in my ass, I often let out little, almost feminine squeals). Afterward, she removes her finger from my ass and makes me suck it clean. That’s it: this is the only thing I’ll ever do for the rest of my life. She touch her own vagina in private; she doesn’t cuck me with other men, won’t even let me see it, and keeps it off-limits forever. Are there any others here with dynamics that are the same as, or at least similar to, mine?
Hello gents!
Longtime lurker/ gooner tbh 🙈
I’m 30 married to a sexy Latina 32.
I have always had a submissive side, but never really leaned into it. I discovered the pussyfree kink/movement via this subreddit about 6 months ago and was immediately hooked. I knew I wanted to suggest it to my wife, but I didn’t know how.
She’s VERY vanilla and traditional, so kinky stuff like this, especially when her man is submissive, is a no go. That being said, she’s been going to therapy recently for trauma that she had repressed from before our relationship which has diminished her libido drastically. I mean like I get a pity fuck once a month when we used to fuck every couple days.
She expressed how she felt pressured to have sex with me because she wants to keep me happy. This adds to her anxiety and makes it hard for her to perform and enjoy sex.
So I suggested that we try going Pussyfree for this weekend so we can focus on each other. And wouldn’t you know…SHE AGREED!
Then I said what if we start with just this weekend, but extend it until you can work through all this with your therapist?
Buds…she agreed to that too 🙈
I need advice on how to ease into this myself and keep her going strong in the pussy free life for as long as possible. Any advice or suggestions are welcome!
I'm curious. What drives you to the pussy-free relationship style? Power dynamic? Performance anxiety? Sexual orientation? Lavender relationships? What?
For me, it is a combination of penance for past false bravado, performance anxiety, and a desire to take the submissive role. The performance anxiety is complex, as I hadn't realized for many years that I was too big for her comfort. The false bravado is from masturbating my way into delayed ejaculation that I was once proud of, but didn't realize I was robbing my partner of the joy of feeling sexy from making me squirt. (Besides being pussy-free, my spouse is thrilled that she was able to make me into a permanent premature ejaculator. Her next project is to steal my prized "big" cock by making me permanently limp.)
Sexually, I am pansexual. I am also gender fluid and submissive. I guess that means it doesn't matter where my sexual gratification comes from. A pussy, a cock, an ass, a hand, a mouth can all make me happy, especially if it makes my partner happy.
Finally, sometimes I feel like my spouse married me because it is what normal people do: get married, even though she might not have yet come to terms with being gay or ACE herself. (Granted, it is not for me to define someone else's sexual orientation, but I do have suspicions and would be fully and unconditionally supportive of her. We do talk about it, too.)
Too much info? Probably. But we all enjoy our pussy-free (however you define "Pussy-free") relationships for different reasons. Most of us are just variants of the norm who love that our partner embraces shared authenticity in the relationship.
Last week I confessed to my girl I wanted to receive her blurred nudes: https://www.reddit.com/r/PussyFreeCommunity/s/d3NKnLwOrd
She didn't send me one yet, but something new happened. Yesterday when we were coming to bed, we started making our while standing. Her shirt was already off as I tried to unhook her bra, while my other hand reach upfront for her boobs. "No!" she said firmly. Followed by another softer "no".
I stopped. Kissed a little and then I went in the shower. Back in the bedroom I told her I was proud of her for setting boarders. Not long after she fell in sleep, but I couldn't, my mind was racing.
We sometimes send each other a longer text, almost like a letter, explaining our brain dump. It makes it easier to address something and also easier to respond (or not to respond, just accept).
What I wrote was this:
"😘 You are so amazing, I can only half explain it. And I already said just now that I found your "no!" really good, hot, and fun.
I am proud of you when you set boundaries. And the directness with which you did it was super sexy.
And in keeping your bra on, there was for me also a kind of ban on your breasts. Which then again turns me on and leaves me longing.
Anyway, maybe a bit intense when waking up, but I thought I'll just do it like you and write my thoughts down. Hopefully you don't mind 😘"
I woke up before she did, waiting in anticipation. She woke, gave each other a kiss, and she opened her phone. She commented out loud on some things. And then she turned to me, gave me a kiss, and said "you're cute".
I've been PF for about 4 months now, would have been 6 but my wife had a moment of weakness and a fight with her bull and took me on Valentines day.
We have discussed that this would only be temporary, playing by ear how long. In play she tells me stuff like never ever will I touch her pussy again with my cock. In private she says that's just play talk, I'm having my doubts though and scared.
My wife has been trying to get pregnant for almost 2 years now while keeping me mostly PF.
Now she is doing artificial insemination.
I was curious to know what your thoughts on that were.
Good morning. I read about so many men here whose partners deny them access to their pussy while giving it to other men. My wife, on the other hand—with a great sense of pride (which turns me on like crazy)—simply keeps her pussy "locked away" for good; she refuses to let me—or any other man—see or touch it. Instead, with great seriousness and solemnity, she masturbates me while watching me, often inserting a finger into my anus. For the record, I am a virgin and have never been inside her. I absolutely love this dynamic. I wanted to know if anyone else here is in a similar situation—where she denies you access to her pussy but doesn't give it to anyone else either. Thanks
Hey everyone,
I wanted to share my story because I recently found this community and it feels like it might resonate with some of you.
I stayed a virgin until I was 29. Then I finally managed to seduce a woman, we started a relationship, and we even got married after some years. At the beginning we had some PIV sex, but always with a condom (she was super strict about it because she didn’t want to get pregnant again and doesn’t like the pill). Pretty quickly the penetration basically disappeared, especially after we got married.
Now it’s been more than 3 years since the last time I was inside her pussy. When I actually stop and think about it, the skin of my cock has literally never touched the inside of her pussy… or any other pussy. And now I'm not even approching my cock to her pussy.
We still have a sex life though. We masturbate each other from time to time (sometimes every week, sometimes once a month or less), and every now and then she gives me a blowjob. It all happened super naturally. We’ve never talked about it, never set any rules. It just slowly became our normal. Back then I didn’t even feel like something was missing. And honestly, we’re a happy couple.
Then during COVID, while I was deep into porn and falling down the femdom/SPH/IR rabbit hole, I discovered the whole pussyfree thing. The more I read the more I realized I had been living it for years without ever choosing or naming it.
It’s a weird feeling. Part of me feels embarrassed, but another part feels strangely validated… and turned on by it. Like this was just how things were meant to be.
Anyone else here who became pussyfree without ever planning it? How do you feel about it now? Did you eventually talk about it with your partner?
Not having access to pussy drives me absolutely crazy. I’m not a cuck, I don’t have a small dick, I’m not a sub, and my wife isn’t cheating on me with other men. But the mere idea of masturbating while a woman watches and assists me—without ever having the chance to actually enter her—gives me 100 times more pleasure than penetrating her does. I’d like to know if there are other men here like me. Cheers.