u/newbieburner

My SO has taken a very different approach to sex recently, last 5 months or so.

What used to be vanilla PIV has turned into:

- long HJs on me, with a more domme flavour

- piv for like a minute when im about to go

- recently two further changes: a) no longer can go down on her b) no longer allowed to use my hands on her.

I'm not necessarily concerned about all this, and very happy to lean in - but SO isn't communicating about this change.

Any advice on a) what this behaviour is and where its leading? b) how I raise it with my amazing SO.

From stud to....

Sex has changed.

Keen for some advice..

My SO has taken the lead in the bedroom and our dynamic has changed over the last 6 months.

What used to be vanilla 45min PIV sex has become kind of gentle domme control that I think is my SOs prejac fetish.

My SO told me a few months ago she no longer wants me to go down on her, and in recent weeks she is denying me - playfully but firmly - from using my hands on her.

Sex is now, amazingly good handjob followed by, when im very close, PIV. Unsurprisingly PIV is over very quick once im so worked up. I'm now down to under a minute on most occasions, 6 months ago I would have been 30mins regular PIV.

Is this heading towards pussy-free, cum on entry, any other thoughts or advice?

Keen for some advice..

My SO has really taken the lead in the bedroom and our dynamic has changed.

What used to be vanilla PIV sex has become kind of gentle domme control.

My SO told me a few months ago she no longer wants me to go down on her, and in recent weeks she is denying me - playfully but firmly - from using my hands on her.

Sex is now, amazingly good handjob followed by, when im very close, PIV. Unsurprisingly PIV is over very quick once im so worked up.

Is this heading towards pussy-free, any other thoughts or advice?

So basically our sex life has err... changed.

We've gone from vanilla, PIV - 30/45 mins to.... loong hand-jobs on me and then PIV when I'm very close, which is then over quickly.

Wife has also told me she no longer wants me to go down on her... and then recently she is also denying (in a playful but very firm way) me touching her downstairs. Instead she'll push my hand away or move it to grab her butt.

I've tried to talk about this but my SO doesn't want to, maybe she enjoys the mystery of it? After doing some research it seems that maybe her femdom fire has been lit and I'm on the receiving end (not necessarily complaining). I'm keen to understand this, does this sound like more of a femdom kink, pussy-free?

Any help and advice welcome, thank you.