r/positivelypremature

Hi there, I have been a prejac all my life. Suffer from lifelong PE but after discovering this subreddit a few years ago I got really hooked on leaning into it and training to get even faster. I’m married but haven’t had sex in years. When I do try to initiate sex with my wife I can’t even last beyond foreplay, which probably pleased her as she really doesn’t want my dick inside her. Besides, she’s had quite a few sexual partners, before and since we were married, so she is used to something more satisfying.

What I wondered, when you hear the expression that you should ‘own your PE’ what does that really mean? What would it involve doing, if anything? I accept that being a premature ejaculator is who I am, it’s part of my identity and it defines me in other ways. My lack of confidence in the bedroom as a result of PE has turned me into a beta male in other ways as well as convincing my with to cuckold me after a few years of marriage. Any opinion gratefully received.

35 m USA here. I’ve been a prejac as long as I can remember. I’ve had tons of experience with both guys and girls and would love to chat with fellow prejacs! Are you just finding out you’re a prejac? Always been one? Just looking for advice? Hit me up!

For me, cumming quickly is one thing, but the real, erotic thrill is all about the specific context behind each scenario.

For example:

Losing my v-card at 18 to a woman off Craigslist and finding out that all ten seconds had been recorded on hidden cam.

Being told that finishing in under 10 minutes would be a problem and cumming after a few thrusts.

Cumming in ten seconds the day after I found out my now-wife had fucked my close friend a few months earlier.

What hot/embarrassing context do you all have?

I’m on a resort island right now and my time dabbling (sometimes seriously, sometimes for a light bit of kink) in prejac and prejac training have caught up with me.

I am surrounded by women in tiny bikinis and I can’t stop throbbing and leaking. I’m not even in my first full day and I feel like I’m going to flood my swimmers 😵‍💫

I can’t decide if I need to me quick cumming morning and night to get some control for my days here or if I want to lean in and just see if I finally lose control somewhere in public

I guess I just wanted to share, get some input and warn anyone that dabbles like I did that you are never truly free once you learn to embrace your cock’s sensitivity 😵‍💫🥵

Wish me luck for the next 5 days 😳

Edit 1: day two, a visible precum stain while walking down the beach this morning. Had to wash off in the water (which also helped be regather my senses) still the afternoon ahead.

I’m almost aching from the throbbing but I still haven’t granted myself any release. This is almost addictive 😵‍💫😵‍💫

From stud to....

Sex has changed.

Keen for some advice..

My SO has taken the lead in the bedroom and our dynamic has changed over the last 6 months.

What used to be vanilla 45min PIV sex has become kind of gentle domme control that I think is my SOs prejac fetish.

My SO told me a few months ago she no longer wants me to go down on her, and in recent weeks she is denying me - playfully but firmly - from using my hands on her.

Sex is now, amazingly good handjob followed by, when im very close, PIV. Unsurprisingly PIV is over very quick once im so worked up. I'm now down to under a minute on most occasions, 6 months ago I would have been 30mins regular PIV.

Is this heading towards pussy-free, cum on entry, any other thoughts or advice?

There’s something sooo so hot to me about a guy not being able to control his arousal. I love teasing a guy and seeing his bulge growing and turn into an obvious boner. I love watching him try to regain control of himself when he gets too worked up, to no avail. And most of all I love turning him on so much that he completely loses control and blows his load in his pants. It gives me such a power rush and turns me on so much. It’s given me an appreciation for all you prejacs out there who bust before we’ve even taken it out 😘

Back in college I had this girl I was seeing, started off as a fuck buddy thing then became a more regular event. For the most part, I would last 2-3 minutes in her.

She was pretty cute. About 5’4, curvy, nice tits, great ass. Look amazing in just her panties.

So one night, I hit her up and she told me to come over. She lived off campus so I got in my car and got there about 15 minutes before I said I’d be. I waited in my car parked on the street, giving her time to get ready.

A couple minutes after I parked, I saw her door open and a guy walk out. She followed closely behind. He turned and they made out for a second before he left and walked down the street. My cock went from soft to hard instantly. She had had a guy over before me.

After about 10 minutes I texted her and said I was here. She said come up to her room. The lights were out so I stripped down and got in bed. I was throbbing already. We kissed a bit before I rolled on top of her. I reached down and felt how wet she was, imagining that it was from the guy I had seen 20 minutes ago.

I quickly grabbed a condom and rolled it on, I got in position and slid in. I knew it wasn’t going to be good. By the third thrust I was filling the condom. Humiliated, I tried to apologize, say it never happens like that (kinda hard to convince her since it had happened before). She just said “it’s ok, don’t worry”.

I got up to throw the condom out and by the time I got back she was already asleep.

so i prejac really fast. i've always had prejac from the very beginning. i didn't know it was unusual. mostly i've lasted in under a minute once i start touching my dick. the more i learned, the more i realised that my ejaculation was really really fast. at first, i wasn't sure if this was a good thing. over time i've developed unique ways to use my premature ejaculation. my fav is going to the urinals and have a quick ejaculation in under 30 seconds without anyone noticing. another way is to sneak in an ejaculation when i go swimming at the beach. all i need is a few rubs sometimes. i carry a condom everywhere i go, so i can release any time. another way to do it while outside the bathroom is to go to a changing room and whip out my cock which i already covered using a condom. i go in with some clothes, prejac in a minute, go out as if nothing happened. i really think this is actually a blessing!

The idea of blowing my load early during an MFM threesome sounds so hot! The ironic thing is that I could’ve had this opportunity back in college, but I was too afraid of cumming fast in front of one of my guy friends. Hindsight is 20/20–wish I had done it because it’s become one of my biggest fantasies!

Has anyone experienced this? Or have similar fantasies?

Everyone I meet perceives me as a bio woman. I take female hormones, I have breasts, etc.

I last about 30-60 seconds. I'm bisexual. I like dominant women. Even though I take female hormones for 10 years I get hard too easy. My 5 inch penis cums so fast. I'm too embarrassed to talk about it. I fantasize about women a lot.

Jerking off can last anywhere from 20-60 seconds

I’m already pretty quick, but I think I can get even quicker. 40 seconds should be easy enough to shorten to 20 seconds, but more than that I’m afraid that I have an uncontrollable urge to become even faster. I’ll never be fast enough. I have been cursed with the urge to get more and more premature until I cum randomly while soft.

I always thought that prejac hypnos and affirmations were just for fun, but I was so wrong. I’ve fallen asleep to a few the past week or so and it has taken my fetish and cranked it up to 11. I don’t just want to cum fast anymore, no, that’s not enough. I crave cumming faster. I have to cum faster, and I’m so desperate to do it.

Maybe I’ve gone too far down the rabbit hole, but my need to be the quickest prejac that I can be seems to grow more intense every single day.

I have had many premature experiences I’d love to share them with a bud or in a group

I think I knew I was premature the second time I had sex ever since I have been a 2pumpchump and I have been interested in hearing others experiences and how others have reacted to them being premature

I’ve been a fan of on this sub for quite a long time the stories are what truly get me hooked on being premature

If you’ve ever wanted to share a story but not to this large of an audience I would love to hear your stories either here or on another platform