Emotionally daft daddy dom?
So my Daddy is amazing at taking care of life stuff but sometimes he’s kind of emotionally daft and I can see he becomes at a loss for what to do when I actually get emotional, was wondering if others have a Daddy like this and how they communicate?
For example, I visited my family this weekend and held my cat who still lives with them a lot and it made me really sad this morning cause I dreamed about my kitty sleeping next to me, and idk how long everybody will be in good health for but my cat was also the light of my life in that household and I’m so worried that every time I go and leave he might think I abandoned him, or that it feels like an eternity cause they have a different sense of time, or he’ll slink off into a corner outside when it’s time for him to pass on and maybe he’ll think of me when in distress or something and I won’t be able to be there for him…. With humans we can communicate really complicated things and also talk through phones and stuff but idk how much of these complex topics my cat understands even when I try to pet and talk to him.
The rest of the family situation is kinda toxic and being there for extended periods is really bad for my mental health but I still care for them even if they are super frustrating to be around. My cat was an absolute angel though and the light of my life there, I cried so hard when I moved out for uni cause I knew it could be the last time I really lived in that household for real. It ended up being true though cause my Daddy basically adopted me when I was almost done school and I’ve lived with him ever since.
Anyways so I kind of broke down bawling from the dream about sleeping with my kitty (who is a senior cat now so not much time left I think), and he was asking me what’s wrong etc. basically I told him while bawling that I dreamt about my cat and I miss my kitty, he’s heard all of the above before on separate occasions, and he was handing me tissues / asking me what he should do and I asked for my pet plushies. He was kind of concerned looking but had to leave for work and telling me stuff like he’ll come back to see me during lunch and “we’ll work on a plan together to go see my cat more”, and “don’t worry we can find a solution together”. And like, it’s charming but also kind of 💀 like I’m also very emotionally illiterate which is why I cry in reaction to complicated emotions and don’t know how to handle them, but even I know that simply doing more day trips to see my cat wouldn’t really fix anything and idk if there is even supposed to be a solution to the stuff I am feeling or if it’s just like one of those complex aspects of life you have to go through…. I didn’t want to talk to him since he had to go but internally I was kind of thinking, wow Daddy’s a dum dum.
Anyways idk it’s not really a relationship affecting issue cause it’s kind of my own fault for liking the stereotype of emotionally constipated men who are competent at life. But when it comes to emotions I’m really bad at handling my own emotions and he’s really bad at handling other peoples’ emotions so sometimes it feels like we’re set up for being doomed in some impending way 🫠 holistically though it’s great that he’s like this cause he can help us resist all those emotional guilt and manipulation tactics that family often likes to use to control and influence us since he’s by nature immune to those, and he also teaches me how to handle those types of interactions as well. It’s really only in our personal dynamic when sometimes I feel guilty about being sad around him after seeing how terrible he is at handling it… sorry ik this is really long and I failed at articulating it into an actual question but I hope you understand what I’m trying to say and have either some thoughts, comparisons, advice, or anecdotes to offer 🙏
Extra: so when we talked more in detail about this he ended up hearing all my emotions and gave me the standard cuddles and stuff but when he opened his mouth he suggested that I get a pet camera robot and follow my cat around with it…. Idk he knows how to make me feel better I guess but it’s like I’m so shocked by his responses that I end up feeling bad for making him deal with me being sad and that makes me stop being sad cause ik he can’t give an emotional response???