Some realizations
I’ve had a couple of realizations that have helped my sessions recently that I thought I’d share. YMMV but these are things that have worked for me in the past couple of weeks that I’ve been having mind blowing HFDOs.
It’s key to get aroused first before even thinking about putting the toy in. Seems basic I know - but sometimes I’d have these sessions where I’d put the toy in and then feel like not that stimulated and start falling asleep. Successfully sessions happen when it feels so good you can’t fall asleep - if you’re falling asleep take the toy out and do something else. A major part of getting aroused for me recently has been playing with my partner (we’ll do some foreplay and he’ll leave me with the toy, and then fuck me after) but it certainly isn’t necessary for sessions to be with a partner.
Affirming that I don’t know how much the pleasure can build is a major part of staying relaxed. Typically when I feel like i might having or close to an HFDO or super O I get excited and the pleasure peaks before dropping back off. When I stay calm and tell myself that there is no limit or that I don’t know where the limit of the pleasure is I tend to experience way more pleasure. If you’re one of those people that has been playing with the toy for a while and haven’t had an orgasm that made you feel like you were on drugs this might help you.
Optimize your sessions by finding ways to relax further. For me I typically play while on my back - and I was finding that the feeling of my legs splaying out or feeling like I had to keep my knees together was resulting in some body tension. Tying my knees together with shibari rope (or having my partner do so) makes it way easier for me to relax as my knees are held together by the rope. The feeling of helplessness from being tied also helps with relaxation for me lol. Other examples of this could be: finding different pillows or towels that make you feel more comfortable, blankets, white noise, etc. I’ve also found that being blindfolded with AirPods or earplugs in helps to limit distractions.
These three things have really propelled my sessions to a new level recently so thought I’d share!