New Pleasure Dom, need feedback on my scene
Hey all. I had an ex who was into CNC role play. I didn't mind it but I don't think it was totally my thing.
I'm seeing someone new. We have already been intimate. She said she wants to get into a daddy/pleasure D/S dynamic with me. She did this a few years ago with a boyfriend who turned out to be mentally abusive, taking the dom dynamic into all parts of their lives which she didn’t want.
I want to be gentle here. Start slow and see what she likes. We've talked about boundaries, likes/dislikes. She's not into hard pain but does like some spanking, choking, and slapping in moderation. No anal stuff.
I'm a very attentive lover, so I feel pleasure dom works well for me. I love pleasing but also teasing and denial.
Here's a scene I put together. Can I get thoughts, suggestions, changes, etc? I want to set a safe, structured scene for our first time. She wants to be surprised as to not know what to expect. I have no idea what I’m doing, just researching pleasure dom ideas.
Play music in background?
Warm Up
Eye contact, breath work together.
Staring at body and inspection with hands. Talk out loud about what looks good.
Massage body, whisper praises in ear.
Stage 2
Add blindfold. Vaguely narrarate what is happening out loud.
Soft teasing touches all over body, kissing everywhere.
Mouth on nipple play with hands rubbing body.
Flogging
Roll her over. Trace impact area of ass with hands. Then trace with flog so she can feel the material. Let her know she is going to feel something.
Start soft slow rhythmic flogging on ass. Look for responses. Hit meatiest part, not spine or sides.
Increase force gradually while varying force with each hit.
Look for healthy flushing on the skin.
Cool Down
Rub hands on the areas of the skin to decrease any stinging
Temperature Play
Roll over again.
Use ice to trace on chest, thighs, neck, followed by my breath or hand touch to warm them back up.
Add oil to body. Groping and massaging.
Oral
Breath play on inner thighs. Tease the center. Light touches as well. Start giving oral. Hands exploring body. First tongue exploration, then focusing more on the center.
If she is about to cum, back off and switch to light touches on body.
Resume oral. Repeat this cycle a few times. Allow her to orgasm.
Sex
Blindfold comes off, deep and intense staring. Verbal praise. Light no-pressure choking, nipple play, and face slapping.
Yada yada yada
After Care
Offer water, blanket, hold them