u/PurpleGold0

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So ive been struggling with initiating flirtation, affection with women i meet in the LS. I tend to like my wife initiating with, "are you into my husband" or women that come right up to a guy. Ive been told im charming, attractive, respectful, great with conversation. I even go up to strangers now at parties. What recommendations do you all have and id be interested to hear from women what do the "take charge" guys do that you like. I somewhat have fear of rejection and also feel i dont want to piss the guy off. While women do lead the LS I still think women want a man to take charge and I need to work on this.

So ive been struggling with initiating flirtation, affection with women i meet in the LS. I tend to like my wife initiating with, "are you into my husband" or women that come right up to a guy. Ive been told im charming, attractive, respectful, great with conversation. I even go up to strangers now at parties. What recommendations do you all have and id be interested to hear from women what do the "take charge" guys do that you like. I somewhat have fear of rejection and also feel i dont want to piss the guy off. While women do lead the LS I still think women want a man to take charge and I need to work on this.

So we really hit it off with a couple that eventually led to the couple telling us 'we arent a good match and we are wanting different things.' They let us know they are only looking for one couple to enjoy swapping with. In my mind we were not going to be a good match because it is too close to being 'exclusive' and both my wife and I agree we are only exclusive with each other. Id like to know from others how is this not borderline wanting a poly relationship? I feel we dodged a bullet because we would have had to be upfront to let them know we arent exclusive in matching up with one couple. Anyone ever face this?

Just tried a silicone, 8mm and hitting the prostate made for an incredible orgasm. Only issue is the opening is slightly larger than 8mm and it left some inflammation near the top of my glans in the canal. When that happens urination is excruciatingly painful right after and takes about a day to relieve the swelling. Any advice on this as the orgasm is nothing short of incredible but the urination is like peeing glass

Both my wife and I are newbies to the LS and have had positive experiences so far. My wife hasn't appreciated nor supports me as the male reaching out or initiating conversations. To her defense, I messed up early on starting conversation without her input (even sharing photos). What i struggle with now is my wife is not the eager type or take initiative type. Not like me who lives by the adage 'the squeaky wheel gets the grease'. Should I be more supportive of taking the passive approach of 'if people are interested they will reach out?' I have had differences with her in that i can support the women led thing but there is a mutual agreement on if we hook up or not. Sometimes I also feel I need to regain her trust in the LS as my intentions were to not go solo but more of who I am in being the more tenacious type. Anyone else relate? I have heard from others this is not uncommon to occur.

Would like to hear from others in the LS if this is more common. I read all the time of the female partner being "bisituational, biselective, bicurious, heteroflexible." Based on what we find, this is not bisexual and after a few experiences we have gathered the thought this is more for the other guy than it is for the other girl. I can justify the fondling breasts and kissing between the 2 women. But ive heard from several women now they dont mind when the girl goes down on them but wont reciprocate. I feel like the term "biselfishness" needs to be a term or even "bi for the guy". I respect women for being straight, I just have a hard time with the opaque terms being thrown around in the LS that leave a lot to be desired.

Basis for my post is understanding how common this is? How do you go to an event or even playroom to cut out if the other female will play with my bisexual wife or not? What sucks for me is how lovely my wife tastes and is always fresh to welcome another female. The most attractive type women in the LS seem to be very much more into MFM or this gray area of being bi which turns out they are really straight.