Does it ever really work? Boyfriend identifies as bottom but only does side stuff.
We’ve talked and after a year or dating he has only bottomed a handful of times. He is essentially a side. He just seems to be holding onto the bottom title to describe himself. I get that. I do not get to describe that for him.
Im a verse top. I am very frustrated. He proposed an open relationship but he does not like when I have sex with guys without him and honestly I’m finding that it’s too much work to find a consistent guy who would like to play with us or stick around long enough.
He says he wants to bottom more in couples therapy but like many sides say here “he’s worried about hygiene, etc etc or its painful”
Do you think it’s time for us to go our seperate ways? We just started couples therapy and he agreed to start using toys more to practice but I think the writing is on the wall, he’s just not a bottom and that’s ok. I guess I’m just looking for opinions on this.