Advice wanted from a new poly sub
My NP and I opened up our marriage (enthusiastically on both sides) about a year ago. My NP had early success with the local
Kink community and thrives in that scene. I on the other hand am terribly socially anxious and prefer to engage 1-1 or in very small groups so I’ve been dating that way- lots of duds but a few continuing play partners and potential FWBs. I’m currently seeing two doms: Apple and Banana. They are aware of each other as far as that I’m seeing multiple people. Apple has a few questionable behaviors to me but I want to check with the fine folks here. Negotiation limits set: sex with condom strongly preferred or at least not cumming in me, and no anal insertions.
We’ve met up for sex 4-5 times. The second time we had sex Apple asked me mid- play to ride him (without a condom) which I did in sub space after a lot of Dom-like play and ass smacking, and he ended up pulling out and cumming on my tits.
2 of those sessions also have been with a third person (with my full knowledge and consent).
The second time we had a threesome the female third started a (slow, lubed) finger insertion in my ass while Apple encouraged her holding my head between his legs and saying yes she’s my sub go for it. I wasn’t particularly upset at the time since I had a lot of sensations going in as she ate me out and Apple’s cock was in my mouth. However looking back I feel like Apple may have had an obligation to check or slow/ run by me our third’s actions rather than encourage them. What say you?
Complicating factor: Banana is very safer sex aware and this story in particular has him concerned that we may not be able to play safely together anymore because of Apple’s (my?) lax attitudes towards STI transmission. Is this something I should be concerned about too? Please help!