u/Puzzleheaded_Ride633

You:

• older, nurturing, dominant, firm
• not interested in my pain or suffering; you want this dynamic to build me up and make me better, nurture and comfort me. In other words, degradation and humiliation are HARD limits for me.
• patient; this is really scary, vulnerable business and if you try to pressure me or jump right into things without us consenting to a dynamic... I will cry lol
• GENUINELY A DADDY DOM. If you just want to get laid, and are not truly a dom, I will figure it out very quickly once we talk so please don't waste either of our time
• trauma-informed, can deal with my skittishness and anxiety
• want to know me not just demand naked pics. I want to crawl into your words (and lap) at the end of the day and ask you what to do about my two friends who are in a fight, or the scary noise my dishwasher is making
• a high-effort communicator and good with words. Ideally I would like to chat consistently, both our jobs permitting. If this post is too long for you to read... I am not the girl for you. I get to yapping when I'm comfortable.
• are not married or ENM. Seeking something ideally long-term and monogamous.
• non-skinny, scruffy, or deep-voiced men to the front :) pessimists to the back. Again, looking for someone to build me up and be comforting.

Me:

• very short, white, brown hair, tattoos, curvy/slightly overweight
• very shy at first, but I do warm up eventually. So just to reiterate, if you want to jump right into this I am not the girl for you!
• anxious, caring, empathetic, a bit scattered, excessively curious, and in a caretaking profession and looking to get a break from that. I want to turn off my brain with you and trust you to do the thinking, lead the conversation, etc.
• about as liberal as they come and have a huge heart for animals. You can expect me to talk about my dog almost all the time :)
• only interested in something that can be IRL. Once I establish that we are looking for the same thing I am happy to send pics, but please don't pressure me.

I really only want to connect with people who have the capacity to meet/do this IRL. Please. Thank you.

Looking for someone patient, kind, smart, and good with words. Someone that knows who they are and is dominant, older. Someone that can do the thinking.

Life is hard and scary and I just want someone to talk to, someone to tell me what to do, someone to explore kinks with... all the things. But I like that it's also not real life so there can be a bit more fantasy and radical honesty to it.

I've done a daddy dom/soft dom thing before, and while there is lots of wiggle room there, I am not looking for age play in itself. More just the dynamic of the age gap and a nurturing, dominant thing. I am not into degradation or those types of kinks.

I am in a helping profession, I love animals, and am a mediocre cook who is strangely obsessed with cooking competition shows. I know it doesn't make sense.

Please be able to tolerate doing this with someone who is skittish on a good day, and rightfully scared of connecting so vulnerably to a strange man from the internet.

Also, it becomes really clear really fast after talking to you if you are not dominant so don't waste both our time if you just wanna badger me with dick pics. And once we establish some level of chemistry and goodness of fit, then yes we will both need to verify with pics or something.

Okay, thank you. I'm sorry this was so all over the place, I hope it makes sense to the right person.