I'm afraid of a dead bedroom, advice needed on how to seduce and pleasure my fiancé.
I (F27) would like some advice on how I can seduce and pleasure my fiancé (M26) better.
My fiance and I have been together for 4 years. I have always been the higher sex drive one, while his is much lower. In an ideal world, I would love 2/3 times a day. But with work and other commitments, I'm absolutely satisfied with once a day.
His sex drive is more so once every 3 days. Sometimes, we will go without sex for a week or two. Most recently, because of different stress and life events, we didn't have sex for 3 weeks straight which was absolute torture for me.
He has struggled with ED for the most part of his life. It's definitely getting better with some life changes, but it's always been a big stressor for him because every time we have sex, he does worry that it might not work. I have a lot of empathy for that and I have always supported him in his recovery. Needless to say, I have put my sexual needs aside because of this struggle.
I feel like a burden sometimes because of my natural higher sex drive. I know he feels anxiety and stress around sex because of his ED, so every time I want sex, I feel like I'm burdening him and stressing him out.
Due to the obvious difference in sex drive, I, of course, feel sexually frustrated and deprived at times. But I love him deeply and I have known our sex drive difference since we met so it is something I have chosen to live with because of my love for him.
Now that he is recovering very well from ED, he does seem to be more interested in sex. But I can't help but think that there must be something I can do more to initiate or elicit more sex.
I want some advice on how I can seduce and pleasure him more. Here are the things I already do: I have learned to love giving him head spontaneously. I naturally do a lot of dirty talking, moaning, scenarios, and role-play. I learned to twerk for him and I very much am down for anything he wants to try. I also continue to focus on my health and fitness, I have a personal trainer and I do my best to be as active and eat clean as possible. I regularly go to personal-care appointments like facial, pedicure, and laser hair removal and I invest in my skin care.
We are getting married later this year, I want to pleasure him more and more and in turn I would love it if we have more frequent sex so my needs are met.
What are some ways I can seduce or pleasure him, besides the things I already do?