u/Relevant-Tree3322

Some context: Met on SA and set up a platonic M&G. Once we met, she demanded a gift or she’d “make a scene.” After that came the daily texts asking for “help.” I made it clear multiple times that I don’t send money over the phone or respond well to constant requests, but the boundary was never respected.

Then came the unsolicited pics… followed immediately by requests to pay for said unsolicited pics.

Not really posting this as a complaint — more as a glimpse into what’s out there sometimes.

And before anyone asks why I didn’t block earlier: honestly, the chaos was entertaining for a while. Today it just became repetitive.

Also, for the record, after being called a “pig,” I consulted a trusted third party who rated my pig resemblance a 4/10 at most. So I’ll be recovering from this tragedy in due time.

I’ve been in and out of the sugar bowl for a while as an SD and have mostly stuck to traditional SB arrangements. The structure is familiar — M&G, PPM, then ongoing dates — and I understand how it all works.

Lately, I’ve been seeing more discussion around SGF dynamics, and from what I’ve read, it seems like it might align more with what I’m actually looking for — something with more consistency, connection, and a more natural flow.

That said, I’m completely new to approaching things this way, so I’m trying not to go in blind.

For those who’ve experienced both, I’m curious what really changes when you move from SB to SGF, and what parts are actually the same but just framed differently. I’d also like to understand how people set expectations early on without things getting unclear or mismatched.

Another thing I’m trying to figure out is whether there are signs that someone isn’t actually aligned with an SGF-type setup, even if they say they are. I’d rather catch that early than learn the hard way.

Appreciate any insight ,just trying to be more intentional with how I approach things moving forward.

Rewards of being a SD