u/RepresentativeTie898

New and need help.

I (32 M) started a FWB relationship with this 33(F). She likes to be spanked and I mean really spanked. She also likes to be tied up and cuffed. My issue is I've only been in vanilla relationships. Our first night together she said I was cute even though I thought I came off intimidating. She says I need to spank harder and with purpose. We're also gonna try duct tape with towel wraps.

Are there any safety tips and helpful advice you can give me. I feel embarrassed to ask but I really want to get into this. I really like the way it made me feel but I wanna give her everything she wants. How can I spank harder and more painful without it becoming a safety issue?

Thank you all in advance and I hope I am welcome in your community.