u/Repulsive-Log717

I’m gonna make this short:
I’ve been talking to a POT SD for about a month. We have a lot of common interests & hobbies, and have made plans to work on/do said hobbies together down the line. We both want to move forward (idk how else to say that, gets serious?), so that’s the plan unless something really unusual/off putting happens at the M&G.

He’s been very generous… He surprised me by sending me a Zelle transfer for my rent and new clothes, which I was obvious extremely grateful for. I only mention this because it’s background that he’s already given me what might be considered a usually gift.

Anyways, one of our shared hobbies is gardening. He sent videos of his gardener’s putting in extra beds so that i “have enough space to plant whatever you want this summer.”

Final detail - I am very artsy, crafty, and creative. Recently, I’ve been really into candle making. I make succulent garden candles in heat proof glass fishbowl, so that it looks like a little living terrarium.

Would it be weird if I brought him one as a gift? Some of them aren’t very big, about the size of a large grapefruit. I’d probably include a silly card saying something like “I’m burning for you” or “You light me up”

Or should I hold off and keep it for later? Is it cute or a little scary to get a hand made gift early on?

Skip to the ALL CAPITALS part if you don’t need the backstory

I met a SD I actually get along with quite well, we have tons in common (both into photography, have almost the same sobriety date, all out our dogs, love to garden, cook, etc), and I’m looking forward to meeting him in person
From the start, he was very open about exactly who he was, I had to do absolutely 0 research (but did anyways, obviously) to find information about him. He sent me his professional work and hobby related websites, told me about his background - where he grew up, his family background, about his kids and what they do, send lots of photos of all sorts of stuff, the usual. I was a little less honest… Im a really fantastic writer, always have been. My bio, looking forward, and conversational style when texting potential SDs is one of the few things I’ll openly claim as serious talent of mine. I get lots of comments on how eloquent and well written I am.
Anyways, I told him I’d had a SD before that had my allowance at $XX,YZZ, set a high expectation, and he believed it and confirmed he was comfortable with the financial expectations, as well as the boundaries I set around being physical.
The issue is, I’m new to this. Not new to older men, or kink in relationships, but specifically sugar relationships.

ANYWAYS…
I’m flying to meet him since we are not logical to eachother. He has sent me a somewhat significant amount considering we haven’t met face to face and he hasn’t asked for anything intimate photo wise (he’s sent me surprises totaling 3k for some clothes/shoes/self care, and the flight). He’s paying for a suit at a really really nice hotel, and I will have free range while I’m there. We have also talked about how if we don’t click, no worries, I’ll enjoy the weekend by myself. I also made it clear that I have family in the area, people know where I’ll be, all that jazz.
My question is - AM I CRAZY?? Is this a really bad idea…? I generally take a lot of risk, and I feel anxious but only because it’s a new experience.

What am I missing here??
Someone please respond with LITERALLY ANY advice, comment, even judgement, whatever I just wanna hear something from someone with more experience than me.

Edit:
I have the option to stay at a condo owned by my dads wife, instead of the hotel
I have secondary family (step family) in the area, as well as friends, who I will be seeing briefly while I’m there