Asking for hubby
So I'm trying to convince my SO to try out prostate play during our intimate moments. I kinda suspect he would like it, because he joked a few times about enjoying the feeling when the doctors put a finger in (and some homophopic jokes about turning gay but alas) and lately I am allowed to touch everything. And when I massage his perineum alongside the usual parts, he orgasms way intenser. It feels like he trusts me more and is able to relax more.
But yesterday during an intimate massage (I try to make the session last longer lately and with less focus on orgasm) I asked again and said that it turns me on if he reaches new hights (I meant that I wanted to put a finger in lol but I try to avoid certain words as that might trigger cultural thoughts iykwim). He said 'no that would hurt'. That scared me! I don't want to ruin it!
So, men of this subreddit. Now I'm afraid that I might hurt him once I finally get permission one day. Is it that sensitive? Any tips for my first time in? I already cut my nails short.