u/Revolutionary-Fun372

Okay so my wife and I have been together for 13 years. We both agreed to spicy up our sex like. We have looked into bdsm activities, bought toys and tools. We have done a few things like leaving bruises, tie downs, multiple toy, etc. however I have been finding it difficult to get into certain activities. For instance how do I go from makeout, to foreplay, to some oral and then to real bdsm. I do the basics but for some reason I can’t find the right time to do the other stuff. She said she wants me to take charge and just do it. Any advice? I can’t seem to just “do it” as she wants. Please don’t be dicks. I want to learn how to be part of this community but I see her as a fragile women and don’t want to hurt her even though she wants me to.

Looking for a female to just chat with it and maybe grab some dinner or something. Not from here, just here for work for a few weeks. Trying to meet new people. Never been out here before.