Can someone explain what just happened with this POT SD?
Newbie SB. Went on a m&g with POT, it went well and he agreed to my xxxx monthly allowance. He wanted to be exclusive and I said that works for me. Said we’d meet in 1 week to start the arrangement.
After the m&g we texted for a few days and had great conversations, then I said I had a long-distance friend visiting me and told him that my texts would be delayed because I wanted to be present with her. He said that’s great, spend time with her, so I did.
I didn’t text him for a few days before our next agreed meeting. For the record, I’m not a big texter so maybe that’s my bad.
Then the meet day comes and I text him “hi [name], are we still meeting today? :) “
He responds, “no sorry I’m dealing with some things rn and I’m not in the best headspace”.
I say “I’m sorry to hear that, and take all the time you need”. I never heard back from him so I continued my search for a POT on SA.
1 month later, he texts me out of the blue asking how I’ve been doing. I say “hey [name], I’m alright. I feel like you ghosted me on go-day and I am looking for someone who is going to make me feel secure. I thought we clicked well so I was a bit bummed by it.”
He responds, “I didn’t hear from you for X days, so I thought you weren’t interested and figured you had ongoing arrangements with other SDs. (*Note: during the M&G I told him I’m not in any arrangement*) Then yesterday I saw you were online on SA. How have things been going with you?”
I haven’t responded to him but can someone tell me what is going on with this POT? I feel like there’s going to be drama with him so I’m no longer interested in an arrangement but was this a mistake on my end? Should I have communicated better or is he a POT that should be avoided?