I wonder if anyone else has experienced this. I very recently came out to my wife.
I’ve noticed that my orgasms are more powerful, it’s like I’ve given myself permission to enjoy my sexual fantasies without feeling guilty. Does that make sense?
I came out to my wife yesterday and it was such a beautiful experience for us both.
A bit of history, I’ve had sexual attraction to guys all my life , but have struggled with it . I’ve never acted upon it and kept it hidden, just fantasising which progressed to chatting online to guys and watching Bi porn. Like any long term relationship we’ve had our ups and downs, have 3 kids and a busy life. Every now and then I would watch porn, then get guilty and put it down for a while , but always come back to it.
I recently got diagnosed with ADHD at age 56, so that’s been something to deal with as well. So glad I did because it’s really helped me open up to my wife .
Also my darling wife is fighting Stage 4 cancer, she’s stable at the moment and feeling good. This is the main reason why I wanted to come out to her. I want to be truly authentic with her and for her to know the real me. I don’t know how long she will be with us and the idea of keeping this hidden from her was becoming too much .
She suspected something was up anyway, last week she said ‘you know what , if you were gay it wouldn’t matter’.
I must of given out some kind of vibes, women are very intuitive. I’m not your typical overtly masculine kind of guy. Introverted, sensitive and quite empathetic.
We were in bed yesterday morning and I questioned her about her comments from last week. She said , so are you , or are you bi? I told her everything. She listened and accepted me for who I am. I explained it’s purely sexual attraction and definitely not romantic for me. I just don’t feel romantic about guys. I would never cheat on her and just want things to stay the same.
We both admitted we had grown apart and lost the connection, me coming out to her was the best thing thing I could have done, we are both on the same page about how to move forward.
So my experience of coming out couldn’t have been better. For nearly 40 years I’ve been carrying the weight of this struggle and I feel finally free to be myself.