Just be you, for real
For the ones in the dating pool, just a reminder to be yourself. We're always asking ourselves (I'm guilty of this too), "what can I do to make a guy like me?" and it is, honestly, a useless question. You can't MAKE guys like you, no amount of changing your habits will magically net you a boyfriend if you're doing them simply for the sack of getting one. I'm really trying to take this to heart myself.
I've never changed who I am at my core for a guy, but I have definitely adjusted myself (negatively) the second a guy shows interest and my anxious brain tells me he might want this or for me to pair back that. I'm pretty evenly split with my masculine and feminine traits, but when a guy would show more interest in one side over the other, I emphasized that side more instead of going with the flow. These are not healthy habits. They make the single life more miserable than it has to be.
I'm not a rugged manly man working on gains and I'm not a docile homemaker who can give you make up tips (even though men assume so due to my appearance). There's nothing wrong with either of those, but they're not me. I'm just a geeky gaymer in his mid 30s who doesn't fit into any particular box in the gay world and that's okay. Some guy out there is sure to like my particular brand of masculine/feminine split, however atypical it might be. I have confidence. You have confidence, too <3