47 [M4F] #Southwest Ohio - I'm in Affair Phase 6. What about you?
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So, have you done this before?
Have you learned that what you wanted a couple years ago is not what you want now?
That's because this journey has phases. 6 of them to be precise.
What are the 6 phases you ask? Well I'm glad you asked, since I took the time to make them up:
Phase 1: Dead bedroom. You resent your spouse for not having sex or letting themselves go so you don't want to. "If I could just have great sex with someone I'd be truly happy!" you tell yourself. You almost feel desperate about it.
Phase 2: Meaningless Sex: well, you did it! But... well.. damn. It didn't make you happy at all. Turns out you need to really like the person and for them to like you. Someone to tell you how amazing you are and heal your wounds of rejection.
Phase 3: But wait. The people that you're really attracted to don't think you're that amazing. Physically, you've let yourself go. And emotionally? you're not much better. Sure, your spouse has some issues, but so do you. In your hunt for an AP you're aiming a little too far out of your league... You really need to work on yourself for awhile and not wallow in self pity.
Phase 4: You no longer resent your spouse for the DB. You still love and respect them, but the sexual attraction is just not there anymore. Still, you're a better spouse and a better person. You took the time to work on yourself and look and feel great. You turn heads with your confidence.
Phase 5: You had a real-life affair with someone you were very attracted to who stroked your ego and made you feel great. Only problem is, even though you both said "not looking to change your situation or mine", they now want out of their marriage and impatiently want you to come with them. But that ain't happening.
Phase 6: You don't need to have sex, nor do you need someone to worship the ground you walk on. Sex and secret meetups are the icing on the cake that is a great life - an extracurricular where feelings are ok, but guilt, selfishness, judgment and ultimatums are not ok.
So there you have it. The 6 phases of affairs.
What about me? I'm just your decent-looking phase 6 guy who's looking for his decent-looking phase 6 girl!
Could it be you?
Then tell me about yourself! I won't respond to low effort replies.
Southwest Ohio or nearby only, please and thank you