Hi everyone, I’ve been lurking here for a while and finally decided to post because I’m honestly a bit stuck.
I’m 25, based in the Philippines, and I’ve been trying to get into the sugar lifestyle for some time now. I’ve done my research, I understand boundaries, expectations, and I’m not here treating it like vanilla dating.
The problem is… I keep attracting the wrong type.
Most of the men I encounter are what people would call “passport bros” guys looking for something cheap, casual, or long-term girlfriend vibes without actually providing. A lot of them talk big at first but disappear when it comes to allowance, or they try to lowball like crazy.
I’ve tried
Dating apps (Tinder, Bumble)
Seeking
Even some Telegram/Discord spaces
And it’s mostly the same experience.
I’m not expecting anything unrealistic just a proper, respectful arrangement with someone who understands the lifestyle. But it feels like in my area, that’s rare or just hidden really well.
So I’m curious
Where are you actually finding legitimate sugar daddies these days? Is it mostly networking? Travel? Private circles? Or am I just looking in the wrong places entirely?
Would really appreciate honest advice, especially from SBs in Southeast Asia who’ve had success.
Thanks in advance 🙏