He has a 5-hour layover in my city — coffee or hotel?
I need some outside perspective.
There’s a guy I really, really like. We’re not together yet, but I already know I’m not looking for something casual — I want this to become a serious relationship if things go well.
He likes me too (at least that’s how it feels), but he hasn’t been very proactive so far.
He has a 5-hour layover in my city, and after that we probably won’t see each other again for another month.
He said he wants to hug me, but also told me he’d be happy even if we just get coffee.
I’m torn.
Part of me wants to spend those 5 hours just talking, eating, and building connection because I care about him and want something real.
Another part of me wonders if I should book a hotel and let us explore physical closeness too, since we don’t get many chances to meet.
If your goal was a serious relationship, what would you choose?
Would you prioritise emotional connection first, or physical connection?
(And if someone likes you but isn’t very proactive yet… would that affect your decision?)