u/Salt_Worldliness_483

I'd been feeling a bit down lately. Muscle aches and bad dating experiences. Since I'd been out of touch with a good, caring friend for a couple months, I tried texting her to see how she was. Hopefully she wasn't so sick of my flaking that a visit would be permitted.

Fortunately, she was glad to have me over! We'd hoped to visit with the raccoons that wander her backyard, but they didn't show tonight. But when we caught each other up with our lives, I shared that I was visiting subs like this one, and what I was into. Y'know, non-regression, simple holding and petting and affirmations, that stuff.

Well, she immediately obliged, herself! She stroked my head and neck and arms, kissed me, told me I was sweet, and safe, and loved. I turned to mush over those moments together and proceeded to yawn for the rest of the visit - I'd never been so relaxed and ready for bed without a sleep med of some kind!

Then I proceeded to share a card game with her that she might be totally hooked on. We'll see. 😆

But, ye gods, I love her. As soon as I got home, I texted her that I was safely back and that I appreciated our time more than she could know. It's not exactly an official dynamic, but it was so wonderful that she offered that kind of care to me... 🥲

The bittersweet part is that there's a chance that she's reconnected with an old flame that she'll move away for. A possible three hour drive to visit isn't the end of the world, but it's certainly given me more urgency to spend time with her now. I love her deeply and can't fathom how I've squandered my time with anyone else.

Anyway, gushy story over. Hopefully you've all gotten to feel wonderful lately, too!

I'd been feeling a bit down lately. Muscle aches and bad dating experiences. Since I'd been out of touch with a good, caring friend for a couple months, I tried texting her to see how she was. Hopefully she wasn't so sick of my flaking that a visit would be permitted.

Fortunately, she was glad to have me over! We'd hoped to visit with the raccoons that wander her backyard, but they didn't show tonight. But when we caught each other up with our lives, I shared that I was visiting subs like this one, and what I was into. Y'know, non-regression, simple holding and petting and affirmations, that stuff.

Well, she immediately obliged, herself! She stroked my head and neck and arms, kissed me, told me I was sweet, and safe, and loved. I turned to mush over those moments together and proceeded to yawn for the rest of the visit - I'd never been so relaxed and ready for bed without a sleep med of some kind!

Then I proceeded to share a card game with her that she might be totally hooked on. We'll see. 😆

But, ye gods, I love her. As soon as I got home, I texted her that I was safely back and that I appreciated our time more than she could know. It's not exactly an official dynamic, but it was so wonderful that she offered that kind of care to me... 🥲

The bittersweet part is that there's a chance that she's reconnected with an old flame that she'll move away for. A possible three hour drive to visit isn't the end of the world, but it's certainly given me more urgency to spend time with her now. I love her deeply and can't fathom how I've squandered my time with anyone else.

Anyway, gushy story over. Hopefully you've all gotten to feel wonderful lately, too!

Greetings. Apologies if there's some threshold of activity/karma that I was supposed to meet before posting. Things have been happening and my heart needs some steam let out.

I'm a male in his 40's, only having learned about my draw to CGL dynamics within the last couple years. And it's only been in the last few weeks that I've started dipping into online communities related to it.

My story is pretty tame and, frankly, probably alienates me from everyone. Sure, I identify as a Little. But I'm also a non-regressive type that simply seeks validation from a maternal source. No dress-up or baby talk. My autonomy matters, most of the time. Doesn't mean I don't crave some sort of motherly love. In fact, I've indulged a partner in her DD/LG inclinations, though I'm not particularly drawn to the dynamic, just so I can grant that sort of comfort to someone else.

I don't have any traumas that I consider particularly dire; just a mother who was emotionally neglectful and left me without a feeling of safety and confidence as I matured. She taught me to be a doormat and that my needs for companionship and play are a burden.

Now I'm just bumbling along, trying to stitch in what I'm learning from therapy and hoping, for the love of whatever creator gods one can invoke, that I finally discover and build a long-term relationship that makes me feel safe and wanted.

Best wishes to all.

Re-post from the intro thread, invoking Rule #2

🌸 Name or nickname: Dan ("Daniel" if formal/in-trouble, "Danny" if being affectionate)

🌸 age / gender: 40, Male

🌸 Little / sub role: Middle / Non-Regressive

🌸 Looking for: Understanding, empathy, maybe a relationship

🌸 Three words that describe you: Introspective, anxious, giving

🌸 Up to five hobbies or activities you enjoy: Writing, reading, gaming, crafting (soap/lotion/perfume), learning another person's passions

🌸 Favorite kind of care or affection: Words of affirmation, reassuring petting.

🌸 Up to three kinks you’re comfy sharing: Still Discovering

🌸 Your favorite quote: "Nothing lasts, but nothing is lost."

🌸 Up to three activities you’d like to do with other members in this community: Discussion, cooperative gaming, learning.

Misc. Notes: Came to realize, through therapy, that I had "mommy issues" stemming from emotional neglect as a child. One of the most impactful moments of my life was having my head held to a woman's chest, being pet, and kept like that for a long moment. Haven't found the courage to pursue an ongoing relationship/dynamic of this sort since.

As a Little/Middle, what is your favorite way of showing love & praise to a Mommy?