How do you guys actually find genuine Dommes safely after bad experiences/scams? after being traumatized
Hey everyone, pls read carefully thanks for your time 😭🥺
I'm hoping to get some real advice from people here who have actually managed to build safe, genuine connections.
I live in a very conservative country, so meeting anyone locally who is open to this lifestyle is pretty much impossible. That leaves me looking online, but honestly it feels like a minefield. I've already dealt with a really bad experience and got scammed in the past, so staying safe and avoiding fake people or financial pushers is my top priority now.
I really want to understand how subs and Dommes connect in a normal, safe way without getting burned judged or misstreated just because who you are and what are you into neglctibg alll ur inteluctual and phylosophy of your life
To be open about what I'm looking for, I want a low pressure connection. Something casual or open where we respect each other's space and private lives, but still talk like real human beings outside the roleplay with touch of being submssive and showing it. On the dynamic side, I'm really into gentle Femdom, feminization, breaking down my masculinity, and stepping into a softer, femboy or omega role and sissyboy for a dominant woman who is actually into submssive man and sissfied man that dont show outside but inside they are soft + am open to try any kinks that my dom desires. But more than anything, I need someone who values normal conversation, mutual trust, and basic respect rather than jumping straight into a scripted scam or toxic trap.
Language isn't an issue for me since I speak English, French, and Spanish, but figuring out where to look is the hard part. Sites like FetLife and regular dating apps haven't worked at all and just feel full of noise or bots.
For the subs and Dommes here who found a real dynamic:
How did you actually meet each other safely?
How do you filter out scammers early on to make sure the other person actually wants a real, human connection?
Are there any specific spaces or approaches that genuinely worked for you?
Thanks for reading and for any honest advice you can share.