My Husband Wants to Watch
Throwaway because people I know are on Reddit.
I’m 24F, my husband is 26M, and we both grew up Catholic. We waited until marriage and were basically each other’s first everything, so neither of us had much experience.
Recently my husband admitted that one of his fantasies is seeing me with another man. At first I thought he was joking because it seemed completely opposite to everything we were taught growing up, but he’s brought it up a few times since.
He says he doesn’t want to pressure me, but he’s genuinely curious about watching me flirt with, kiss, or potentially be intimate with someone else while he’s there.
The strange part is that instead of immediately rejecting it, I’ve caught myself thinking about it. I’ve never been with anyone except my husband, so part of me wonders what being wanted by another man would even feel like.
Now I can’t tell whether I’m actually curious or whether I’m only thinking about it because my husband introduced the idea and seems so excited by it.
Has anyone else from a conservative Catholic background had their spouse bring up something completely outside what you expected marriage to look like? Did exploring the fantasy make you closer or just complicate things?