Asked my wife to peg me
Sorry, bit of a long story but... (pun intended ;) )
So I (31M), asked my wife (31F) to peg me. We've been together for like 12 years, married for 4, and have a pretty good sex life. She's pretty Vanilla, but is open to different positions etc, and is open to the idea of using toys, (vibes, cock rings, dildos). But ive always had this deep dark secret of a fantasy I have, of her fucking me with a strapon. Ive carried this for years, like 10 years or more, I stopped masterbating analy, to try and suppress this kink of mine, but every few months it pops up and im in turmoil over wether to speak to her or not.
The other day I finally did it, I couldn't carry the weight of it anymore, and opened up to her. Unsurprisingly she was a bit taken back, considering we dont do any anal play at all, its a bit 0-100, fair enough.
She's bought it back up a few times and weve spoken about it. At first I was getting a hard no, but she bought it up again. And I just asked what she was worried about. And I think I got to what she was worried about in the end, and the stigma that anal play is just for gay guys, I cleared this up with her, saying im only into her, and its the act im interested in, not a different sexuality.
Her tone changed after this. Ive left the ball in her court, shes going to listen to Ruby's podcast, and ive told her to just think about it for as long as she wants, she doesnt even need to give me an answer, just one day she will be wearing the strapon I ordered, or she will never wear it. Ive said I wont bring it up first again, thats for her to do.
My question is. If one day, shes wearing it, what do I do 😂 i would want to make sure she has as positive experience as possible so she would try it again, so how do I make that possible. Im open to giving her fake dick a BJ, or being a sub if this awakens something in her, and everything inbetween.
Part of my fantasy with her isnt even just the anal, its pushing her up against a wall, going down on her, and having her fuck my mouth whilst im fingering her or something. Obviously I think this would probably be a bit extreme for her first time, considering shes on the fence 😂
Any tips to help her have fun on our first time (if it ever happens) would be much appreciated 👏