Today I tried to instigate an intimate moment. It felt like the ideal time. The temperature, shall we say, was right.

But as I started kissing, caressing, fondling, she merely sat back and ignored me. A book in hand, her focus elsewhere. I kept trying in vain before finally slinking away.

Now I feel dejected. Ugly. Unwanted. Cast aside. The lack of acknowledgement is the hardest thing. Even a simple "Not tonight" would mean more than silence and inattentiveness.

This experience is being saved. It'll be used as an example at a later date to illustrate my desires to save this marriage - marriage in name only, since we're flatmates more than anything else.

Regardless, I just needed to rant. I need to share this with people who will understand.

Thank you.

Male. Female. We all share the same or similar frustrations here. But have you ever done something that you regret because of these frustrations.

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Thank you.

I'm at the end of my tether!

My wife is awesome but she's unable to have penetrative sex - she won't get the help she needs - and has no interest in intimacy beyond kissing and hugging.

But the thing is, I just want to have sex. It has been YEARS. I'm a 30 year old man and I feel the pull more and more these days. The desire to give in to my urges. But I resist.

Is anyone else like this?

Married for several years now and almost no sexual intimacy whatsoever. I try. I try, so hard.

I have broached the subject. Things change for a week or two, then back to normal. Nothing.

Now I just feel repulsive. My self-esteem is lower than ever. I'm a 35 year old man that is never experiencing intimacy.