u/Silo_n

Brat-switches--what do your dom/me sides look like?

I have only recently realised I am a switch alongside being a brat. It took me awhile because I am really not a brat-tamer and so don't like wrangling other brats, which were the only kind of submissive I encountered at the time. I was also inexperienced which lead me to feeling too unsure to dom. Within the last year I have wanted to explore my dom side more, I am incredibly emotionally sadistic and love to make people "break" I think pleasure-doming/orgasm denial/overstimulation and edging appeal to me most as a dom (I am also chronically ill and physically can't do as much of the physically overpowering side, plus I like the idea of people willingly offering submission without me having to fight them. I am kind of "bossy" no matter wether I'm subbing or domming and like ordering people around and making them do things for me, kind of like a spoilt princess lol--obviously still within peoples tolerance ofc). I saw there are actually quite a lot of brat-switch posts--and people--in this sub and wanted to see what type of dom/me my fellow brat-switches are and what kind of scenes you like and also what "dom space" feels like to you if you go to a specific headspace? I do notice that my subspace is a much more concrete thing but maybe that is common? I am a little more nervous about domming because someone offering you their submission is such a precious thing and I am kind of terrified to make mistakes with that. Any and all anecdotes would be greatly appreciated, thanks for reading! :)

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u/Silo_n — 2 days ago
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Wax play advice

Best heights/methods tips and tricks to get the best control. I want to play with my friends and want them to be able to do cool patterns with the wax and pretty drips/runs. I have used candles before and they drip ok, someone on reddit said they use crayola crayons which I thought would be cool fun colours wise but I feel like they are harder to make drip/run. The last person I played with made all of those decisions/had that knowledge whereas me and my friends are starting from scratch a bit. I’ve figured out roughly the heights that feel good to me but my control is lowkey kinda terrible with it and I can’t figure out if its the wax or what Im using to heat or if I should find some sort of warmer and better pouring system as I literally just melted and dripped a crayon onto myself today lol. I am using parafin wax

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u/Silo_n — 11 days ago